Feel
Feel is a practical book written by the journalist, consultant, coach and Spanish author Míriam Tirado. The work was published on August 31, 2023, by the Grijalbo publishing house. This book arises from the writer's need to help parents connect with their children or other family members. However, on this occasion, the also president of Crianza Consciente studies that connection from the root: feelings.
Míriam Tirado is already well known for her consultancies and conferences, in addition to her YouTube channel and podcast. Through all these media—along with her social networks—she has managed to reach a very wide audience, both Spanish-speaking and English-speaking. Feel It is just an example of his perseverance towards parents and the mission he has undertaken to teach how to develop healthy bonds.
Synopsis of Feel, by Míriam Tirado
If no one taught us how to feel, how can we help others do it well?
The author describes her book as “A journey to learn to accompany your emotions and those of others.” Under what context? Well, for the most part, human beings have never received emotional education or tools to learn how to manage their emotions or those of other people. Even so, our society requires us to always behave up to our circumstances, to console children, the elderly and our partners.
But how can we keep track of other people's feelings if we don't know how to handle our own? In Feel, Míriam Tirado proposes a route of self-discovery, in order for us to get closer to the primary reasons why it is difficult for us to discern and deal effectively with what we feel. Especially, The author focuses on those emotions that have been blocked and that, logically, we cannot release easily.
It is necessary to learn what to do with our emotions
Míriam Tirado proposes a very simple thesis: when we learn what to do with our feelings and emotions, it is much easier to accompany the periods of greater emotionality of others. However, putting this argument into practice is not as easy as it appears at first glance, because the real proposal is to confront traumas, fears, differences that seem irreconcilable, among other practices.
Even so, Míriam Tirado offers a reward, which becomes an incentive to carry out this titanic task: this practice means better understanding the children at home, the students in the classrooms, the couple in all spaces. , and so on. For it, The writer offers a series of exercises to train the feeling muscle. It also provides resources and tools designed to develop a plan around our own emotions.
Why should we learn to feel consciously?
In several interviews, the author has made it clear that this idea was born from an analysis that was carried out as the pandemic emerged and was established. It was there, in that period of chaos and uncertainty, that The writer noticed a very important shortcoming in terms of managing emotions and the expression of feelings.
Later, Thanks to his experience with the coach for parents and children, he began to write a manual to help people establish their own methods that will be applied in their daily lives, autonomously, actively and with full awareness of the cause. Of course, his plan is very focused on negative emotions: such as anger, fear, jealousy, etc.
Where do emotions come from?
Míriam Tirado explains that, when it came to evaluate our emotions, it is necessary to distinguish what they are and why they emerged at a certain moment. In addition, we must take into account in which other period of our lives we have felt that way, and what is the best way to drain, express and, finally, work on that feeling to manage it in a healthier way. This, in order to lead a more satisfactory, full and happy life.
What we learned from our parents and what they were taught
A key point of Feel it's the pastBecause We learn through it in the form of the people who raised us and they accompanied us throughout a stage of our lives. Children learn emotional management from their parents. But what happens if this management is inadequate or simply does not exist? People are used to letting go of uncomfortable emotions. It's natural, after all, they make us feel bad.
However, avoiding and blocking them is the worst way to solve the problem, since those same uncomfortable emotions stay there, opening a hole in the psyche of the person who suffers from them. Difficult emotions have always been rejected, but they don't go away. It is best to accept that they exist, that they are temporary and that we have great potential to heal them and teach others how to heal their past wounds.
About the author, Míriam Tirado
Miriam Tirado
Míriam Tirado was born in 1976, in Manresa, Barcelona, Spain. The author graduated in journalism. Subsequently, He worked for 14 years in the Information Services of Catalunya Rádio. Likewise, she worked at RTVE and Flash FM. However, in 2014 she left her career to dedicate herself exclusively to the communication of conscious parenting, with the help of her mother and her stepfather, who are dedicated to the area of helping new mothers.
The writer too specialized in Conscious Parenting Coach with the Conscious Institute method of Dr. Shefali Tsabary, an American clinical psychologist. Since then, Míriam Tirado has dedicated herself to giving workshops, conferences and talks for mothers and fathers, where she teaches them to have a greater connection with themselves so that they can achieve more effective parenting.
From this process he has written several textbooks, stories, and children's and youth literature. The same way, He speaks to his more than 45.700 subscribers through his YouTube channel. Míriam Tirado is very active on social networks such as Instagram and X, in addition to having her own blog.
Other books by Míriam Tirado
- Links. Gestació, part and conscientious upbringing (2005)
Children's Stories
- The TETA Party (2017);
- I have a volcano (2018);
- The invisible thread (2020);
- Sensitive (2022)
parenting books
- Links. Conscious pregnancy, birth and parenting (2010);
- skin-deep maternity (2018);
- Tantrums (2020);
- Bounds (2020)
Narrative
- Removed (2021);
- My name is Goa (2023)