Abantu abanobuthi: indlela yokusebenzelana nabantu abenza impilo yakho ibe nzima yincwadi ka-2010 eshicilelwe ngu B wePocket (I-Penguin Random House). Ingabe mayelana incwadi efundisayo ngokuphathwa kobudlelwano ebhalwe nguBernardo Stamateas. Kuyingxenye yeqoqo lamamanyuwali achaza futhi anikeze imihlahlandlela yokulawula ubuthi ezimpilweni zethu. Lokhu kuhambisana ngokukhethekile Abantu abanobuthi obuningi: yini labo abafuna kabi ukuthi uzizwe ulungile? (2014), onomunye umbhalo ongezansi osikiselayo.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sase-Argentina uBernardo Stamateas sibonisa uhlu lwezinhlamvu eziyinkimbinkimbi ezigcwele impilo yawo wonke umuntu, uyasixwayisa ngabo futhi isinika iseluleko esisebenzayo sokubeka lokho okunzima kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi: imingcele.
Abantu abanobuthi: indlela yokusebenzelana nabantu abenza impilo yakho ibe nzima
Ukwehla ebhizinisini: ubuthi bezenhlalo
Umuntu ungumuntu wezenhlalo ngokwemvelo futhi kunoma yimuphi umkhakha wokuphila sizungezwe abantu: umndeni, isikole kanye nenyuvesi, umsebenzi, abangani, omakhelwane, umlingani ... Kukhona abanye abasigcwalisa ngokumangalisayo ngamandla futhi benza ukuphila kulula kithi. Kodwa ngokuqinisekile uye wahlangana izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa nomuntu odonsa amandla nesikhuthazo sakho. Ngesizathu esisodwa noma eziningi kunzima ukuhamba, ukuqeda ubuhlobo. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyadingeka ukufunda ukuhlala ndawonye (isibonelo, emsebenzini) futhi, hhayi lokho kuphela, funda ukuphatha indlela esihlobana ngayo futhi sibeke imingcele esivimba ekuhluphekeni kokuba nomuntu anobuthi.
UBernardo Stamateas udala isithombe sobuntu encwadini yakhe Abantu abanobuthi. Uchaza ezinye izinhlobo ezingokwengqondo futhi uzwelana nomfundi wakhe othola ngokushesha ukuthi akayedwa kule nkinga yobudlelwano nemizwa. Ngoba lapho uhlobana nombhangqwana, kufanele ufunde ukulawula imizwa yakho, imingcele yakho futhi uvimbele omunye umuntu ekulawuleni isimo. Umbhali uzama ukuchaza ubudlelwano esinabo nabanye futhi asize nokubona lezo zixhumanisi eziyingozi ezisivimbela ukuba sibe nempilo enokuthula.. Ngezinye izikhathi singakwazi ukuzihlukanisa, ngezinye izikhathi singakwazi ukwenza lobo budlelwane bube yithuba uma senza ngokuzibophezela ngokomzwelo, futhi kwezinye izimo kufanele sifunde ukusungula lokho esikufunayo nokuthi yini, yini esizimisele ukuyiletha kanye nemigqa ebomvu noma imikhawulo leyo. ayikwazi ukuwela ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ezinye izincazelo zencwadi
Akekho owathi kulula ukubeka imingcele enempilo futhi uphume unamandla ngaphandle kokulimaza ukuzethemba kwakho. Le ncwadi buncinza ubunzima bobudlelwano, ukubhekana nezifundo anobuthi kanye nobuthakathaka obungokomzwelo ngezinye izikhathi obuthatha phezu kwethu lapho sihlala ekamelweni elilodwa esa umuntu. Ngokunjalo, iveza laba bantu futhi inikeza imihlahlandlela yokuthi singaxhumana kanjani nabo, nakulezo zimo lapho silahlekelwa khona ukulawula.
Akufanele futhi sikhohlwe ukuthi iyincwadi yokuzisiza futhi ezinye zeziqondiso zakhe zingase zibe nephutha, njengoba imishwana ethile ingazwakala iphindaphinda ngoba ijwayelekilenakuba kungelona iqiniso elincane. I-Stamateas, nokho, ibhala ngokucacile futhi ezinye izeluleko zokuphila kwansuku zonke zingakhishwa. Okugqamayo ngempela kule ncwadi uhlu lwabantu abanobuthi ngezinhlobo. Ngaphandle kokuhlolisisa imininingwane eyinkimbinkimbi, ubuntu bungaba wusizo ekuziboneni (noma mhlawumbe ukuzazi wena?) labo bantu abanomona, abakhohlisayo, abanezinkinga, noma abacindezelayo abeza baphinde bahambe ezimpilweni zethu.
Le ncwadi icubungula abantu abacophelelayo, abanomona, abangafaneleki, abanolaka, abaqamba amanga, abahlubuka ngokwengqondo, abangenangqondo, abahlebayo, abaphethe igunya, abanezinzwa, abakhohlisayo, abazidlayo nabakhonondayo.
Iziphetho
Abantu abanobuthi Liyibhuku lokuzisiza elilula futhi elihlekisayo kusukela ekuqaleni. Nikeza uchungechunge lwama-brushstroke ezinhlobo ezingokwengqondo ezingasiza ekuboneni labo bantu endaweni yangakini lokho kwenza impilo yakho ibe nzima. Kodwa-ke, ayinawo ama-nuances ajulile angokwengqondo, futhi amasu achazwe ukuwagcina ekhoneni athi dweshu. Ukuba yincwadi emfushane futhi efundeka ngokushesha, futhi ethengiswe ngempumelelo enkulu, ingadonsa ukunaka futhi ibe inketho yokuhlanganisa endleleni yokwakha ubudlelwano obungcono.
Sobre el autor
UBernardo Stamateas wazalelwa eBuenos Aires ngo-1965. Waqeqeshelwa iPsychology eKennedy University futhi kamuva wathatha i-Sexology njengochwepheshe. UngoweNhlangano Yase-Argentina Yobulili Bomuntu futhi uyilungu le-Ministry of God Baptist Church, esebenza njengomfundisi endaweni yaseBuenos Aires eCaballito. Wayenesikhala sezempilo ochungechungeni lwase-Argentina.
Amandla akhe okusabalalisa kanye nokuxhumana aholele ekutheni abe nokutholakala okukhulu ngaphandle kwezwe lakubo. Ngokufanayo, izincwadi zakhe ziyafakaza umsebenzi ophumelelayo futhi owaziwayo emkhakheni wezempilo, ukuthuthukiswa komuntu kanye nengokomoya. Eminye yemisebenzi yakhe edume kakhulu yilena imizwelo enobuthi, ukondla abantu, Ukuzola okungokomzwelo, ukwehluleka okuyimpumelelo o autoboycott.