Lobu buhlungu akusibo obami (UGaia, 2016) yincwadi yezengqondo eyabhalwa uMark Wolynn othuthukisa indlela yezinkanyezi zemindeni. Eqinisweni, ungumsunguli we-Family Constellation Institute (FCI).
Kule ncwadi umbhali uveza konke ukuhlukumezeka, izinhlungu eziguquka zibe wukukhathazeka, ukhwantalala nezinye izifo ezigcina sezihlala isikhathi eside nezitholakala emindenini yethu, kubantu abasikhulisile. Badlulisa ngokungazi uchungechunge lwamaphethini angalungile ngesikhathi sobuntwana. ukuthi abadala banamuhla bathwele futhi akwaziwa ukuthi baphumaphi. Ngale ndlela Umbhali unikeza incazelo yokuthi ukuhlukumezeka komndeni kusithinta kanjani.
Lobu buhlungu akusibo obami: noma ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka komndeni kusithinta kanjani
imilaza yomndeni
UMark Wolynn ugxile ekuhlukumezekeni okuzuzwe njengefa emindenini noma kubantu ababakhulisayo ukuze achaze izifo ezingokwengqondo ngisho nezingokomzimba kanye nokugula.. Abantu abaningi baba nezifo ezinjengokulahlekelwa ukubona, isifo sikashukela nezinye izifo ezimbi ezingase zibakhubaze. Iphinde ikhulume ngokudangala, ukukhathazeka, ama-phobias nezinye izinhlobo zezifo ezingapheli ezingakhubaza ngokufanayo. U-Wolynn uzamile ezinhlakeni zezinkanyezi zomndeni ukuthola izimpendulo mayelana nokuhlukumezeka kwabantu abeza ngaphambi kwethu.
Ucwaningo lwakhe lwe-pseudoscientific lungazama ukuthola unyawo ekuphazamisekeni kwamakhemikhali okungalinganisa iziguli futhi okungavela kulokhu kuhlukumezeka.. Kungakho, ukuze kwakhiwe izimpikiswano ezingcono, kuye kwafunwa ukwesekwa kwesayensi kwama-hormone futhi kwaze kwashiwo ukuthi izinkinga zofuzo, ngaphezu kokuzuzwa njengefa, ngeke zihlale zingashintshile, kodwa kuzoba nokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle okukwazi ukuguqula ukulandelana kofuzo isizukulwane. emva kwesizukulwane uma ukuhlukumezeka kungaxazululeki.
Kodwa, ikakhulukazi, Ayini amaqoqo ezinkanyezi omndeni? Zibhekwa njenge-pseudotherapy edinga ukuhlolisisa okwedlule komuntu siqu nokomndeni ukuze uthole ukuhlukumezeka okudala ukungakhululeki esigulini.. Imbangela ikulowo mndeni odlule hhayi kumuntu uqobo. Le ndlela izohlola ukujula kobudlelwane bomndeni obuqondile noma obungaqondile. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuhlukumezeka kungaqhamuka emalungwini omndeni angaziwa ngoba kuqhubekile nokudluliswa ngokunganakwa noma ukucwaswa. Ngakho-ke u-Wolynn ukholelwa ukuthi imbangela yezifo ezitholakala ngofuzo ebangelwa ukuhlukumezeka ingelashwa ezinkanyezini zemikhaya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngale ndlela ukwelashwa kungatholakala ngaphandle kwemithi, noma ukuyeka emsebenzini kungagwenywa.
Indlela yolimi lwenuzi
Ukuhlukumezeka kuvela kokuthile okuqukethwe: isipiliyoni, indlela yokuziphatha eye yadluliselwa futhi elele engazi. Ukucindezela ukuhlukumezeka kubangela kuphela ukusabalala kokungakhululeki kwabanye abantu kanye nokutholwa kwezifo ezintsha.. U-Wolynn uqinisekisa ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngendlela yakhe kanye nokwelapha iziguli eziningi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuqeda amaphethini athile ngenxa yokuqonda ukuhlukumezeka, ukuthethelela nokubuyisana nokhokho bethu.
Encwadini uveza izivivinyo eziningana ezisekelwe kulokho akubiza ngokuthi "indlela yolimi lwenuzi" noma indlela yolimi oluwumongo. Ulimi lungaba ithuluzi elibalulekile lokuhlolisisa ukuhlukumezeka nokusondela ezimpandeni nakubantu abaludlulisile, abantu abasondelene kakhulu, amalungu omndeni, obaba nomama, okuyibona abakhulisa izingane zabo. Inqubo izohlanganisa ukugxila elungwini lomndeni elilodwa noma ngaphezulu okukholakala ukuthi ubuhlungu buphuma kulo kanye nasekusebenziseni ukubuka ngeso lengqondo kanye nenkhulumomphendvulwano ezama ukufinyelela ekwelapheni. Lokhu futhi kutholakala ngenxa yokwamukelwa, ukuqonda nokuhlaziywa kwemizwa nemicabango ekhiqizwa yilaba bantu kithi. Inhloso ukuhlonza ukuhlukumezeka ukuze usondele kukho, usebenzele kukho futhi ukuxazulule..
Ekugcineni, U-Wolynn uphinde abhekisele "Kutimu Ezine Ezingazi lutho" eziseduze nokuziphatha kwabantu abasikhulisayo noma kokuhlangenwe nakho ababephila kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kanye nasebuntwaneni. Lokhu ukuziphatha kokuncika, ukwaliwa, ukuhlukana komndeni, noma ukuhlukumezeka okuzuzwe njengelungu lomndeni.
Iziphetho
Lobu buhlungu akusibo obami liyincwadi enentshisekelo yokuhlonza ukuhlukumezeka komndeni okuzuzwe njengefa ukuze kusetshenzwe ngakho futhi kutholakale isisombululo.. U-Wolynn uyaqiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuhlukumezeka kuyimbangela eqondile yezifo eziningi ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo ezihlala zingapheli futhi izimbangela zazo azinakwa yimithi evamile. Umbhali, ngokusebenzisa izinkanyezi zomndeni, usebenzisa indlela esekelwe olimini (indlela yolimi oluwumongo) ukuthola ukuhlukumezeka, ukubhekana nakho futhi ukuphulukise. Lobu buhlungu akusibo obami Kungaba indlela yezinye izinhlobo zokwelapha ezisiza ukuqonda kangcono ukuhlukumezeka okungaxazululiwe noma izimo zomndeni ezivimbekile.
Sobre el autor
UMark Wolynn ucwaninga ngokuhlukumezeka okuzuzwe njengefa futhi ungumqondisi ongumsunguli we-Family Constellation Institute., etholakala eCalifornia, lapho ehlala khona. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izincwadi zakhe ziqoqwe ngu Psychology Today, Umzimba Wengqondo Oluhlaza, Elephant Journal, Psych Central, noma The New Yorker. Uthole iziqu zePsychology and English Language eNyuvesi yasePittsburgh ngama-honours. Eqinisweni, uye wafundisa kuyona le nyuvesi, kanye nase-Western Psychiatric Institute, i-Omega Institute, i-Open Centre kanye ne-California Institute of Integral Studies. Njengomfundisi, izinkulumo zakhe zisakazwe ezikhungweni ezahlukene futhi uthengisa izincwadi zakhe emhlabeni wonke.