nzira dzerudo (Uranus, 2010) ibhuku rakanyorwa nemaoko maviri nachiremba wepfungwa Amir Levine uye chiremba wepfungwa Rachel Heller. Iri bhuku rakanangana nekurapa kubatanidzwa muvakuru kubva pahwaro hwesainzi. Inopa ruzivo runobatsira zvikuru pamusoro peiyi pfungwa inotanga kupararira pakati pehuwandu sezvo hukama hunoshanduka uye hunowedzera kuoma.
Kana uri kufunga nezve nzira yekuvandudza zvisungo zvako kana kuti uchida kunzwisisa kuti ndeupi rudzi rwekubatana kwaunayo muhukama hwako hunobva paunhu hwako, iva nechokwadi chekuverenga bhuku rino. Is bhuku rechokwadi rekuziva kuti kubatana kunogadzirisa sei hukama hwedu.
Nzira dzerudo: kana kuti kubatana kunogadzirisa sei hukama hwedu
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Isu tiri mhuka dzemagariro, uye hutano hwehukama hwedu huchava nemigumisiro yakasimba kune vanhu isu tiri, pamwe chete nehupenyu hwedu.. Levine naHeller vanodzikisira dzimwe dzidziso dzakaitwa pamusoro pekunamatira uye kusiyanisa zvidzidzo zvavo kuburikidza nesainzi. Kuti vaite izvi, vanodzokera kukufungidzira kwakagadzirwa naJohn Bowlby, weChirungu psychoanalyst uyo akapayona dzidziso yekunamatira.
Iri bhuku, iro ratova nemakore gumi nematatu, rinovhara mukana wekubatanidzwa uchionekwa sechirwere. zvakatosiyana, Vanhu vane chido chekukurumidzira kumisa zvisungo zvakachengeteka uye kunamatira chimwe chinhu chine musoro uye chinotarisirwa pakati pedu.. Nekudaro, kune zvimwe zvakabatanidzwa zvinodikanwa uye zvinobatsira, izvo zvisingadzikisi kuzvitonga uye zvinotiita kuti tichengetedze hukama hwakanaka nevamwe. Saizvozvo, kune zvakare mamwe anogona kuve muchetura padanho rehukama nevamwe vanhu. Kunyangwe nenzira yepedyo isu tinobatwawo nea Mal kushamwaridzana, sezvo kuzviremekedza kunogona kukuvadza zvikuru.
kubatanidzwa mukukura
Pane izvo pasina kupokana, uye izvi zvakaratidzwa nezvidzidzo zvakasiyana, ndezvekuti kubatanidzwa kwedu kunotsamira pamwero mukuru pakubatanidzwa kwatakagamuchira sevana. Kuumbwa kwounhu hwedu, rudzi rwokubatanidzwa kana kuti mwero wokutsamira pamirangariro wouduku hwedu uye rudzi rwechidakadaka kana kuti ngwariro iyo vabereki vedu vakatipa zvinosarudza iyi batano yavakuru iyo vanyori vanobata nayo mubhuku racho.
Tsananguro dziri mubhuku dzakajeka uye batsira kunzwisisa muverengi anotsvaga kuburikidza nemapeji avo rudzi rwekunamatira kwavanazvo uye mhedzisiro yekubatana nemunhu ane chakasiyana chinongedzo.. Vanyori vakakanda mambure kune munhu akabatanidzwa neshungu uye vanopa yambiro kune anodzivirira maitiro avanogona kuita nevanozvidya mwoyo. Chenjerera kune izvi, nekuti, chero zvakadaro, mhando mbiri idzi dzekunamatira hadzina kunaka kwehupenyu huzere uye hukama hune hutano. Munhu ane hukama hwakachengeteka anofanirawo kuverenga nokungwarira, yeuka kuti vanhu ava vanewo hukama hwepfungwa nevamwe. Vanhu netsanangudzo vanodyidzana.
Mhando dzekubatanidza
Sezvatakataura, Dr. Amir Levine uye chiremba wepfungwa Rachel Heller vanotsanangura dzidziso yaJohn Bowlby yekunamatira, iyo yakakamura kubatanidzwa mumhando nhatu:
- Chokwadi. Avo vane hukama hwakachengeteka vanoziva kuenzana kwemanzwiro muhukama, vanokwanisa kutaura pamusoro pemanzwiro avo uye kutsvaga kubatana nemumwe munhu kuburikidza netsitsi.
- Anxious. Anonzwa kurwadziwa, munhu ane kuzvitarisira pasi anogara achida mumwe munhu uye anogara achitya kusiiwa. Anovimba nemirangariro.
- avoidant. Anowanzova munhu anodzivisa kutaura pamusoro pemanzwiro. Ivo vanhu vanotonhora uye vari kure; kazhinji vane hunhu uhu nekuti vakatambura nguva dzekusakendenga kubva paudiki.
Kuziva zvakabatanidzwa zviripo, pamwe chete neunhu hunhu uye mhedzisiro yeumwe neumwe wavo kunobatsira kunzwisisa matambudziko ehukama, pamwe nemanzwiro anotirwisa mukutarisana nekusachengeteka kwedu kwakadzama. Hazvifaniri kukanganwa izvozvo kusachengeteka uku kunokonzerwa nekusangana nemumwe kubva kune yepedyo manzwiro enyika. Kunzwisisa kubatana kweumwe neumwe kuzvinzwisisa iwe pachako, izvo zvinoreva kuongorora zviri nani mamiriro acho ezvinhu kuitira kuti adzore shure. Nokuti hongu, zvakataurwa kuti zvinokwanisika kushandura mhando yedu yekunamatira.
CONCLUSIONS
nzira dzerudo Ibhuku rine chekuita nehukama hwevakuru, kunyangwe kurimisa kuhukama hwevaviri kunenge kuri kusiya basa razvino pamusoro penyaya iyi rakaganhurirwa. Pasina panikiro, ibhuku rinogona kubetsera kunzwisisa hunhu hwomuverengi ndokubvisa kusava nechokwadi kwakati pamusoro penhau iri kuvamba kuva yakanyura zvikuru uye iyo inowanzotaurwa nezvayo pasina kuziva. Kubatanidzwa kwevakuru kune mhedzisiro yakananga pakubatanidzwa kwehudiki (ivhiri rinodzosera kumashure) uye bhuku rino rine hwaro hwesainzi hweapiyona John Bowlby. Bata zvakabatanidzwa zvakasiyana kuti ugone kushandura izvo zvisina kunaka kana zvinokuvadza kune zvine hutano uye zvakachengeteka izvo zvinoita kuti tiwirirane nevamwe kubva pachedu kuzviremekedza uye rudo..
Nezve vanyori
Amir Levine inyanzvi yezveuropiyo ine mukurumbira muIsrael uye chiremba wepfungwa.. Parizvino ndiye ari kutungamira kuita zvidzidzo zvekutsvagisa paColumbia University uye anoshanda naEric Kandel, akahwina Mubairo weNobel muMishonga mugore ra2000. Inhengo yeAmerican Psychiatric Association, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry uye Neuroscience Society.
Rachel Heller inyanzvi yezvepfungwa kubva kuColumbia University. uye hushamwari naDr. Levine hwakakurudzira vose vari vaviri kugadzira bhuku iri. Heller akazvipira kushanda pane zvakabatanidzwa uye hukama nevanhu vanouya kuhofisi yake.