Umphakathi ubonakala uqaphela kakhulu umthelela imizwa enawo ekuphileni kwethu. Ngokungafani nesikhathi esithile esidlule, namuhla okuqukethwe okuningi ngendaba ye-Psychology kuzungeza kumanethiwekhi, akukhululiwe - kufanele futhi kushiwo - ngolwazi oluyiphutha kanye nokuthengisa "i-positivist pop psychology", okungenangqondo futhi okulimazayo kunenzuzo.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuphendukela ku-biography eqinile esekelwe kwisayensi. Namuhla sifuna ukukunikeza izinsiza ezinikeza iziqinisekiso. Sikwethulela "Ama-junkies angokomzwelo, indlela yokuzikhulula emicabangweni elimazayo", ngu-Isabel Trueba. Kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe siqu nokuqeqeshwa ku-neurocoaching, umbhali usifundisa ukubeka imizwa esivunweni sethu ukuze sizuze impilo egcwele futhi enomusa.
I-Synopsis ye-Emotional Junkies
IMFIHLO ISEMZWENI WAKHO: YENZE IKUsebenzele EKUVUSELWENI KWAKHO
Ingabe usifakile isikhathi nomzamo ekuthuthukisweni kwakho kochwepheshe, impilo yakho yomzimba kanye nobudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu, kodwa ukhohlwe ukunakekela imizwa yakho? Imizwa inomthelela onamandla ekwenzeni kwethu izinqumo, ikhwalithi yobudlelwano bethu, kanye nomuzwa wethu wenjabulo, nokho sivame ukuyishaya indiva, sikholelwa ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukuyiguqula.
ama-junkies angokomzwelo kusicwilisa ohambweni lokuzazi olwembula ukuxhumana okujulile phakathi kwemicabango nemizwelo yethu. Isinika indlela eyingqayizivele ehlanganisa isayensi yezinzwa nobuhlakani bemizwa ukuze siguqule abashayeli bezindiza abazenzakalelayo abasivimbela ekujabuleleni ukuphila.
Le ncwadi ayigcini nje ngokusembula le mpicabadala, kodwa futhi isinikeza umhlahlandlela wokuguqula ingqondo yethu futhi sizuze ukulingana kwangaphakathi. Kusifundisa ukuthulisa lelo zwi eligxekayo elisilimazayo futhi ukwenze umngane onamandla ngenxa yamathuluzi amaningi asebenzayo afakwe kulawa makhasi. Ngoba ushintsho lwangempela luza kuphela ngesenzo, hhayi ithiyori elula.
Kusambulela ukuthi iyiphi inqubo edingekayo ukuze sivule ingqondo esivimbela ekuzuzeni ukuthula kwangaphakathi, injabulo kanye nomuzwa wempumelelo yomuntu siqu. Ngenhloso enkulu yokukwazi ukwamukela izinselele zempilo ngokuzola, le ncwadi iyisihluthulelo sokuguqula amaphethini omqondo ongokomzwelo nokuphila impilo egcwele.
Ingabe uzohlala uyisigqila semizwa yakho noma uzoba umshayeli wekusasa lakho?
Biography of Isabel Trueba
U-Isabel Trueba uyi-neurocoach, umeluleki, umfundisi, onentshisekelo yokuthi ingqondo isebenza kanjani kanye nochwepheshe ekuthuthukiseni ithalente elingokomzwelo. Ubuchwepheshe bakhe i-neurocoaching, intelligence emotional, i-enneagram kanye nokuqeqesha ngamavalues. Ukuqeqeshwa kwakhe okubanzi kufaka phakathi, phakathi kwezinye iziqu, Umqeqeshi Oqinisekisiwe we-ACC yi-ICF, uchwepheshe we-NLP Master, Neuroscience yabaqeqeshi futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, ungumfundisi we-firewalking. Njengoba esebenze iminyaka eyishumi nesikhombisa njengomqondisi kanye nozakwethu enkampanini yamazwe ngamazwe, lapho ayeqondise khona ukuvulwa kwamagatsha emagumbini ahlukahlukene omhlaba, wanquma ukuguqula impilo yakhe, washiya umhlaba webhizinisi futhi waba umsabalalisi wenhlalakahle ngokomzwelo. . Enezinkulungwane zabalandeli kuphrofayela yakhe ye-Instagram, futhi ngamazwi nezimfundiso zakhe, uqondisa abantu enhlalakahleni enkulu yemizwa, izinguquko ezihlala njalo nezibalulekile ezikhuthazayo.
Amanothi okuthobeka nolwazi lomuntu siqu
Lo msebenzi uqala ngokuvula okuthobekile kakhulu, lapho I-Trueba iyabonga ngokufunda futhi ihalalisela umfundi ngokufuna ukushintsha impilo yakho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, wabelana ngolwazi lwakhe siqu kanye nakho konke ukwesaba okwakudingeka adlule kukho ukuze enze le ncwadi kanye nomsebenzi wakhe wempilo ibe ngokoqobo.
Ngokuvamile, ukuphila kuyasiphula futhi kusuke lapho lapho abanye abantu beqala khona ushintsho; Abanye, ngokudabukisayo, bangahlala becwile ezinkambisweni zokucindezeleka, ukulutheka kanye nenqwaba yezifunda ezingasebenzi kahle. Umbhali usinxusa ukuthi sishintshe singalindi impilo isinyakazise njengoba kwenzeka kuyena.
Akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukweqisa ukuze uqale ushintsho. Okunye ukuhlupheka kuyagwemeka, nakuba kudingekile ngokwezinga elithile ukuze kukhule. Yena Uzama ukwenza lula inqubo yokuguqulwa kithi ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe siqu, i-neuroscience kanye nobuhlakani bemizwa.
I-metamorphosis ye-butterfly: uphawu lokuguqulwa komuntu siqu
Inqubo ye-metamorphosis yovemvane ivame ukusetshenziswa njengophawu lwenguquko yomuntu siqu. Ngokuhunyushwa kwayo okuhlukene, kukhishwa izifundo ezahlukene ezithakazelisayo kakhulu. Empeleni, Le nqubo ibonisa isidingo sesikhathi esanele sokuba izinguquko ekuphileni zenzeke nokuthi lezi azinazo izinkinga.: Isibungu sichitha izinsuku ezinde sivalelwe ebumnyameni bomfece, sigaywe ama-enzyme, kodwa kamuva, kuvela uvemvane oluhle olukwazi ukundiza amabanga amade (ngomzamo omkhulu wokuphula umfece).
“Indoda eyasiza uvemvane luphuma emfeceni walo”
U-Trueba ubonisa inqubo yokuguquka komuntu siqu ngendaba emangalisayo eyamthinta ngesikhathi esithile ekuphileni kwakhe, lapho indoda, emizamweni yayo yokusiza uvemvane ukuba luphume kukhokho lwalo, lwavula imbobo kulo ukuze lube lula. . Ngempela, uvemvane lwakwazi ukuphuma ngokushesha kodwa amaphiko alo abunile futhi alikwazanga ukundiza.. Indoda elungile yayingazi ukuthi imizamo yokuphuma emfeceni yayizothuthukisa ukujikeleza kwegazi ukuze amaphiko evuleke ngendlela efanele futhi asebenze, ngaleyo ndlela luvumele uvemvane ukuba lundize.
Hlonipha ubunzima endleleni futhi uhloniphe i-tempo
Ukuphila kusebenza ngendlela efanayo nokuguquguquka kwezimvemvane, abantu basebenza ngendlela efanayo. Izinqubo zomuntu siqu azidingi ukusheshisa, izikhathi kufanele zihlonishwe, ngoba ukuphela kwensiza okufanele sidlule kuyo ngokufanelekile ebunzimeni esiyohlala sihlangana nabo endleleni.
Indaba le isikhuthaza ukuthi sikuvume lokho Izinselelo empilweni azinakugwenywa futhi ziyingxenye yesipiliyoni sethu sempilo. Asikho isidingo sokuzigwema, kufanele nje sizibambe sizithathe njengamathuba okukhula nokuzithuthukisa njengabantu. Impilo injalo. Ngencazelo igcwele izibani nethunzi, injabulo nosizi, impumelelo nokwehluleka, ukushaywa nokwaneliseka. Ibhalansi enempilo yileyo esekelwe ekwamukeleni ukuphelela kwakho futhi ungagwemi ingxenye emnyama kakhulu yempilo. Leso isifundo esimangalisayo esinikezwa yindaba yokuguquguquka kovemvane.
Ezinye izindaba nezimfundiso izimvemvane eziza zizositshela
Njengoba sesishilo, isingathekiso sokushintshashintsha kwezimvemvane sisilethela izifundo eziningi. Sithatha leli thuba ukukhombisa ezinye izibonelo ezingakusiza futhi ezihambisana nomsebenzi we-didactic womsebenzi kaTrueba. Sethula kuwe “uvemvane olwalungazi ukuthi lungandiza”. Le ndaba idlulela ngesinyathelo esisodwa ngaphezu kobunzima uguquko lomuntu siqu oluhlanganisayo olufanekiselwa i-metamorphosis. Futhi yilokho, Ngezinye izikhathi asiqapheli amandla ethu.. Njengovemvane, ngezinye izikhathi sikholelwa ukuthi asinawo amaphiko okundiza, futhi sikholelwa nokuthi lawo maphiko ayisithiyo.
“Uvemvane olwalungazi ukuthi lungandiza”
Le ndaba enhle isitshela indlela isibungu esingaziboni ngayo ekubonakaleni kwaso kovemvane olusha. Uzizwa elinganiselwe ngoba akasakwazi ukugaqa emaqabunga njengoba enza ngaphambili, futhi Uzwa sengathi lawo maphiko angajwayelekile ayamsinda futhi amvimbela ukuba aphile ukuphila ayehlala enakho. Akazi ukuthi isigaba sakhe sobunwabu sesiphelile nokuthi manje sekufike isigaba esisha empilweni yakhe: esokuba uvemvane.
Ayikho indlela enhle nengokomzwelo yokusifundisa ukwedlula Abantu bayashintsha futhi sivame ukumelana nokulahla abadala. amaphethini esingasasisebenzeli, singanakile ukuthi sesikhulile ngempela. Manje sinezinketho ezintsha namakhono asivumela ukuthi siye kude kakhulu, njengovemvane olunweba amaphiko alo futhi luthole ukuthi selungakwazi ukundiza.
Kusukela ku-junkies yemizwa kuya ekuhlakanipheni kwemizwa
Ngalesi sihloko esiyingcaca nesihlekisayo, “abadobi bemizwa”, isihloko esibalulekile salo msebenzi siyaboniswa: sizikhiphe emizweni ephikisayo futhi sihlele kabusha ingqondo yethu ukuze kuqhamuke abanempilo esivuna thina.
Izinkolelo ezikhawulela
Akekho umuntu ongabalekela indaba yakhe yokuphila, eyaqala esemncane. Amaphethini amaningi angasebenzi ezimpilweni zethu zabantu abadala noma angasasisebenzisi adalwe lapho. Yilokhu kusayikholoji yengqondo okubizwa ngokuthi “izinkolelo ezikhawulelayo” futhi yilezo ezisivimbela ukuthi siye phambili futhi sizuze inguqulo yethu engcono kakhulu. Sonke sizobe sesijwayelene “Angikwazi”, “Ngimdala kakhulu”, “Nginezingane”, “akunakwenzeka”, “sekuphuze kakhulu”, “imali mboleko…” kanye nenani elingapheli lezitatimende ezakha inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphakathi esivimbela ekufezeni izinjongo nezinjongo zethu.
Imizwelo engemihle
Ukulandela lowomcabango, ukujula umuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba, ukungazethembi kanye nenqwaba yemizwa engajabulisi esivimbayo. Imizwa esenza sibe “yimilutha” noma “ama-junkies” endabeni yangaphakathi esiholela ekubeni sidabuke kakhulu noma singene ekukhubazekeni. Futhi asikufuni lokho, akunjalo? Hhayi-ke, yilokho kanye u-Isabel Trueba azositshela khona: ukuthi ungayisusa kanjani leyo mizwa nemicabango engemihle ukuze sakhe ukulandisa okunempilo okusivumela ukuthi sizuze izimpumelelo zethu.
Thuthukisa ingxoxo yethu yangaphakathi
Ngokuhlela kabusha ingqondo siyakwazi ukushintsha ingxoxo yethu yangaphakathi maqondana nobungane futhi obusebenzayo. Sikwazi ukuba "abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo", okuyinhloso enomusa yomlobi emsebenzini wakhe "Ama-Emotional Junkies", indlela yokuzikhulula emicabangweni elimazayo. I-Trueba isisiza ukuthi sibeke imizwa esivuneni ukuze sijabule futhi siphumelele kakhudlwana.