Qonda imizwa yakho, Enrique Rojas

Encwadini yakhe ethi, “Understand your emotions”, udokotela wengqondo ohamba phambili waseSpain, U-Enrique Rojas usifundisa ukukhomba imizwa nemizwa yethu, ukuze siyiphathe ngekhono elikhulu futhi sibe nezimpilo ezigcwele nezigculisayo.

Ngobuchule obukhulu kanye nokwethula amacala akhe omtholampilo, usenza siqonde isakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi njengomhlaba wemizwa yabantu. Inhloso yomsebenzi wakhe ayilutho ngaphandle kokufaka isandla enhlalakahleni yabantu. Ngakho-ke, iyincwadi engase ikufanelekele kakhulu ukuyifunda. Sikwethulela "Qonda imizwa yakho", ngu-Enrique Rojas, konke odinga ukukwazi mayelana nokukhishwa kwabo kwakamuva.

Mayelana nombhali: U-Enrique Rojas

U-Enrique Rojas unguprofesa wePsychiatry and Medical Psychology kanye nomqondisi we-Rojas-Estapé Institute of Psychiatry. Umklomelo Ongajwayelekile WeDokotela Kwezokwelapha ngocwaningo lokuzibulala. Udokotela Wonyaka Wesintu eSpain. Uthole i-Master of Senior Management evela eSpain. Usanda kuthola uMklomelo ka-Pasteur ku-European Competitiveness Association ngomsebenzi wakhe wokwelapha.

Izincwadi zakhe zinikeza izici ezimbili: imitholampilo, ezinikezelwe ekucindezelekeni, ekukhathazekeni, ekuhlaselweni kokwesaba, ukuphazamiseka okungapheli kanye nokuphazamiseka kobuntu; nalabo be indatshana nezindikimba zobuntu, mayelana nentando, izinkinga zobudlelwane, ubuhlakani noma injabulo….

“Qonda imizwa yakho”: Amazwibela

Igayidi ecacile nenembayo yokubona lokho esikuzwayo futhi ngaleyo ndlela sikwazi ukulawula futhi sizuze ukulingana ngokomzwelo.

Kule ncwadi, uDkt. Enrique Rojas ukhuluma ngemizwa, imizwa, izinkanuko nezisusa ezibeka ukuziphatha kwethu. Uma sazi ukuthi singabakhomba kanjani, sizokwazi ukubalawula futhi ngeke kube yibona abasibusayo.

Imizwelo ingahlukaniswa ibe ngababili abaphikisanayo: uthando nenzondo, injabulo nokudabuka, ukuthula nokwesaba, ukutuswa nokudelelwa, njll. .ezingezinhle futhi silawule ezinhle ukuze singazivumeli ukuba zisithathe ngokungenangqondo.

Imikhawulo efiphaziwe ku-affectivity

Ngalesi sihloko uvula indlela yendikimba enkulu yencwadi yakhe kwezinye izingcezu zesahluko sayo sokuqala. Futhi, njengoba lesi sikhulu se-psychiatry sichaza, Ukuthintana kuwukwakhiwa okuyinkimbinkimbi okunzima ukukuchaza futhi ngezinye izikhathi izigaba okuhlukaniswa kuzo azinembile futhi ziyadlulana.

Uyasichazela ukuthi incazelo yalo ingahluka kuye ngokuthi kugxilwe kuyo ekuqaleni: i-psychology, i-neuroscience noma ifilosofi. Esimweni ngasinye indlela ihlukile, nakuba ingakhethekile.

Uthisha uRojas usitshela ngezigaba ezine zokuthinteka: imizwa, imizwa, izinkanuko nezisusa. Kamuva uyabahlanganisa babe ngababili abaphikisanayo ukuze baqonde indlela abakhuluma ngayo: uthando nenzondo, injabulo nokudabuka, ukuthula nokwesaba, ukutuswa nokudelelwa. Futhi kulo lonke ukuthuthukiswa komsebenzi le mibono izodluliselwa kwezinye eziyinkimbinkimbi, njengobuntu kanye nentuthuko yabo emphakathini namasiko.

Izokhuluma ngezihloko ezifana nenjabulo, ukuzethemba, uzwela nabantu abanobuthi, okuwusizo ukwazi ukuthi singahlonza kanjani ukuze silondoloze impilo yethu yengqondo. Esokugcina sezahluko zaso sinikezelwe “ebulula”, isici esihle njengoba sithobekile kumuntu okufanele sikuhlakulele futhi okufanele sihlolisise njengoba kwenza umbhali.

Konke lokhu kuxaka kwemizwa kwethulwa ngendlela efundisayo nejabulisa kakhulu, enongwe ngamacala omtholampilo avela ku-Rojas uqobo awethula njengesibonelo sokuqonda nokuphatha okungcono.

Izwe eliyinkimbinkimbi yothando

Sesikushilo kakade, i-affectivity iyisakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi. Ubukhulu bomuntu obuhlanganisa ukuzizwisa ngokomzwelo komuntu ngamunye kanye nezinkulumo kumuntu ngamunye, futhi kungabandakanya izinhlobonhlobo zezenzakalo zengqondo ezihlobene.

Kusukela kumqondo wokusebenza kwengqondo, umhlaba wemizwa ungahlukaniswa izigaba ezine: imizwa, imizwa, izinkanuko nezisusa, okunqunyelwe kwazo kuhlukanisiwe futhi kuvame ukweqa. Eqinisweni, zonke zakha i-amalgam exhumene futhi ukuhlukana kwazo akuyona into engaphezu kwe-artifice enzima ukunikeza indlela eqondakalayo.

Ukuqonda ukusebenza kuhlanganisa ukucabangela kokubili izici zengqondo, imizwa kanye nezisusa. I-subjectivity ye-affective experiences kanye nomthelela womuntu ngamunye, wezenhlalakahle namasiko kunomthelela ebunkingeni besakhiwo esithintekayo. Futhi njengoba u-Enrique Rojas esichazela, ukuqaphela imingcele efiphele yokuthinteka kubonisa isimo esiyinkimbinkimbi nesiningi sezimpendulo zomuntu ezingokomzwelo nezishukumisayo.

Ukuqonda ukusebenza: imizwa, imizwa, izinkanuko nezisusa

Uma uzwa sengathi “uvula umlomo wakho” ngaphambi kokufunda incwadi ka-Rojas futhi ufuna ukuqonda kancane le mibono, ngezansi sikunikeza ithuba ngokuchaza imivimbo emifushane. Kunjalo, ukuze uthole ukuqonda okujulile nokuphathwa kahle kwezwe lakho elingokomzwelo, umsebenzi kadokotela wethu wengqondo oyinhloko umelwe ufundwe.

• Imizwa: Ziyizimpendulo ezizenzakalelayo nezingokwemvelo ezishukumisayo ezithile, nezimo ezihambisanayo zomzimba nezobuso. Ziyizinto ezisheshayo futhi zingaba khona endaweni yonke.
• Imizwa: Kuwukuhlangenwe nakho okuqaphela kakhudlwana nokucabangelayo okuvela ekuchazeni imizwa ngokwengqondo. Bakhuthazela ngokwengeziwe futhi bathonywe okuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhathi esidlule nezinkolelo zomuntu ngamunye.
• Izinkanuko: Ngokuvamile, zibhekisela ezimweni ezingokomzwelo ezinamandla neziqhubekayo, ngokuvamile ezihlobene nesifiso, uthando noma ukuzonda. Izinkanuko zingase zigxile kakhulu ebuntwini futhi zingathatha isikhathi eside.
• Izintshisekelo: Amandla angaphakathi aqondisa futhi anike amandla ukuziphatha okuya emigomweni ethile. Ukugqugquzela kungaba ukwazi noma ukuquleka, futhi kuqhutshwa izidingo, izifiso, noma imigomo yomuntu ngamunye.

Uyabona, ngenkathi imizwa iyizimpendulo ezizenzakalelayo, imizwa iwukuhlangenwe nakho okucabangelayo, izinkanuko yizimo zemizwa ezinamandla, futhi izisusa zingamandla ashukumisayo aqondisa ukuziphatha ezinhlosweni ezithile. Ngayinye idlala indima eyingqayizivele empilweni yomuntu engokomzwelo kanye neyokukhuthaza, futhi “ekuqondeni imizwa yakho” unethuba elingenakunqotshwa lokukuqonda ngokujulile.

Ezinye izihloko ezithakaselwayo ngu-Enrique Rojas

Phakathi komsebenzi wombhalo omkhulu ka-Enrique Rojas sithola ezinye izihloko ongase uzithakasele. Izincwadi zakhe zifakwe ezigabeni zokuzisiza, ezempilo kanye nezengqondo. Ngale ndlela uzowathola ezitolo zezincwadi.

Sithemba ukuthi kulezi zincomo uzofunda ukuphatha kangcono umhlaba wakho wemizwa futhi ngaleyo ndlela kuzuzwe inhlalakahle efanele wonke umuntu. Jabula ngangokunokwenzeka!

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