Enye yezincwadi evame ukutuswa kulabo abafuna ukuzibhala yilena, "Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane Nokuthonya Abantu". Yize isivele ineminyaka embalwa ubudala, iqiniso ukuthi ingenye yalezo ezikufundisa izisekelo zebhizinisi nokuthi ungafinyelela kanjani izinzuzo eziphezulu.
Kodwa kumayelana nani? Ubani umbhali wayo? Yini le ncwadi engayifundisi? Ngezansi sidalula konke kuwena ukuze wenze isinqumo sokuyifunda, noma uyidlulise. Siqale?
Ubani obhale ukuthi Ungawina kanjani Abangane futhi Uthonye Abantu
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Uma ubona incwadi ethi How to Win Friends and Influence People uzokwazi ukuthi umbhali wayo nguDale Carnegie. Kodwa empeleni lokhu akukho. Igama lakhe langempela uDale Breckenridge (akwenza kwakuwukusebenzisa isibongo sikanina, kuphela owashintsha isichazamazwi). Wazalwa ngo-1888 futhi wafa ngo-1955.
Ngesikhathi sakhe wayengusomabhizinisi nomlobi wezincwadi, zonke zazihlobene nokukhulumisana nobuhlobo babantu.
Umbhali ukhulele epulazini wasebenza njengensizwa emaphandleni ehlanganisa nezifundo zakhe. Uthole iziqu zobuthishela esikoleni kodwa phakathi neminyaka yokufunda waba nethonya elikhulu nolwazi ngokwelashwa kwabantu.
Umsebenzi wakhe wokuqala kwaba ukudayisa izifundo zokubhalelana abafuyi. Kamuva, wathengisa ubhekeni, insipho nebhotela. KANYE Nakuba ungase ucabange ukuthi wayemubi ngakho, empeleni kwakuphambene, Yaphumelela kangangokuthi yaba umholi wezokuthengisa kazwelonke.
Futhi yilapho umsebenzi wakhe wokuba usomabhizinisi, futhi njengombhali, waqala. Eqinisweni, incwadi esikhuluma ngayo kulesi senzakalo kwakungeyona eyokuqala ayibhala. Lolo “dumo” luya kokuthi Ungakhuluma Kahle Esidlangalaleni: futhi Uthonye Osomabhizinisi. Khona-ke le ncwadi yafika, yanyatheliswa ngo-1936, futhi ngemva kweminyaka emine ngeSpanishi.
Balandele:
- Ukuyeka kanjani ukukhathazeka futhi uqale ukuphila.
- Lincoln, ongaziwa.
- Indlela esheshayo nelula yokukhuluma ngempumelelo.
- I-Cañada.
- Ukushayela phakathi kwabantu.
- Ukuphatha abantu.
- Umgqugquzeli obalulekile.
Ngokwami, Yindodakazi yakhe encane, uDonna Dale, enesibopho sokugcina umoya uphila nezimfundiso uyise azishiya, kanye naleyo elandela ezinyathelweni zakhe.
Imayelana nani le ncwadi?
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Le ncwadi ivame ukucatshangwa njengokuzisiza ukwenza ubungane, ukuqonda ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu, njll. Kodwa empeleni kuqhubekela phambili. Lisitshela ngobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu, yebo, ngakho konke esingakwenza ukuze sithuthuke. Kodwa futhi indlela yokushintsha isimo sengqondo somuntu ukuze sibe nomthelela omuhle kwabanye (ukuthola esikufunayo).
Kuzo zonke lezi zibuyekezo: enye ngo-1936 enye ngo-1981, nakuba sicabanga ukuthi kuye kwaba nengxenye yesithathu, ezinye izingxenye noma izahluko ziye zakhishwa, njengethi Writing Effective Sales Letters noma Ukuthuthukisa Ukuphila Komkhaya Wakho.
Yingakho abaningi bekhetha ukuthola zombili lezi zinhlelo ukuze babe nencwadi ephelele.
Nansi amazwibela:
«»Ungawina Kanjani Abangane», inguqulo yakudala yobudlelwano babantu, iyinhlanganisela yezimiso namaqiniso angakaze adlulwe nanamuhla. Lapho eqala le phrojekthi, u-Dale Carnegie wanquma ukusebenzisa ulwazi lwakhe olukhulu lwabantu, amakhono akhe okubuka kanye nolwazi lwakhe lobuchwepheshe, futhi umphumela waba incwadi ye-psychology yansuku zonke engazange ilahlekelwe noma yikuphi ukubaluleka nokuthi, ngesilinganiso esihle, imvelaphi. wokumaketha kwesimanje. NgokukaCarnegie, impumelelo yezomnotho incike ku-15% olwazini lobungcweti kanye nama-85% ekhonweni lokuveza imibono, ukuthatha ubuholi nokuvusa isasasa kwabanye.
Ngezeluleko ezisebenzayo nezibonelo ezithathwe kubo bobabili abantu abaziwayo kanye nabantu abavamile, uCarnegie usibonisa amasu ayisisekelo okuba nozwela futhi njengabanye, siqonde imibono yabo futhi sikwazi ukukholisa imibono yethu ngaphandle kokubangela ukucasuka. Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane, ngezigidi eziningi zamakhophi athengiswa emhlabeni wonke, isithinte kakhulu isizukulwane ngesizukulwane. Manje, ngalokhu kubuyekezwa, okubuyekeziwe kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili, futhi lapho isandulelo sendodakazi yakhe, uDonna Dale Carnegie, sengezwe, sizokwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthuthuka ebudlelwaneni bethu babantu, sizuze impumelelo ekuphileni kwethu komuntu siqu kanye nobuchwepheshe, futhi siziqonde. kakhudlwana".
inamakhasi amangaki
Uhlelo lwakamuva kakhulu, oluvela ku-Elipse, olukhishwe ngo-2023, usinikeza incwadi enamakhasi angama-384. Kusukela kulokho esikwazile ukukubuyekeza, kubonakala sengathi kukhona nomagazini wedijithali, nakuba intengo ihluke kancane kumagazini wephepha.
Uma bekhipha ama-edishini amasha ezincwadi, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi, ngenxa yesakhiwo, noma ukukhetha kosayizi webhuku, lingase libe namakhasi amaningi noma ambalwa.
Uma isidala kangako, siyakufanelekela?
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Kuyiqiniso ukuthi uhlelo lokuqala lwale ncwadi cishe iminyaka engu-90 noma ngaphezulu (ukukunikeza umbono, yashicilelwa okokuqala ngo-1936). Kodwa-ke, ngoMashi 1, 2023, "uhlelo olubuyekeziwe lwabaholi besizukulwane esilandelayo" lwakhululwa, ngakho-ke singaqagela ukuthi yonke into ebiphelelwe yisikhathi ithintwa kabusha.
Lokho akusho ukuthi isivele ibuyekeziwe. Empeleni, imiqondo eminingi kanye nezinhlobo zobudlelwano bomuntu siqu nobuchwepheshile ziyasinda ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngendlela yokuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudlula iminyaka engu-90, 100 noma engu-500, siyaqhubeka senza into efanayo. Ngakho-ke, singasho ukuthi yebo, liyincwadi enhle, kodwa njalo ngokucabangela umphakathi, izenzakalo zamanje kanye nendlela ibhizinisi elenziwa ngayo ukuvumelanisa ulwazi oluvela encwadini ekuphileni kwangempela.
Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane Nokuthonya Abantu akuyona incwadi elula yokuzisiza, nakuba abaningi beyichaza kanjalo. Eqinisweni, sikhuluma ngencwadi engakusiza uqonde abantu futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, uguqule isimo sakho sengqondo ukuze ubathonye. Uke wayifunda? Ungalokotha ubheke? Sishiyele imibono yakho kumazwana.