Thandeka: funeka sithethe
Thandeka: funeka sithethe yincwadi yokuzinceda ebhalwe yingcali yezengqondo yaseSpain kunye nomyili womxholo u-Elizabeth Clapés, owaziwa ngcono kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo njengo-Esmi. Umsebenzi wapapashwa yindlu yokupapasha yaseMontena ngoFebruwari 3, 2022, kwaye injongo yayo kukusasaza ulwazi lobuqu kunye nokuzithanda ukuze kuzuze uzinzo olukhulu kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, kwiqabane, umsebenzi, usapho kunye nobudlelwane boluntu.
Esi sihloko ngu-Elizabeth Clapés yenza uphononongo olunzulu ngobomi bangoku kunye nendlela ubudlelwane bothando obusebenza ngayo. Emva kwesitayile sakhe esilula nesiqondakala lula kukho ukubonakaliswa okuntsokothileyo kwizihloko ezifana nesithukuthezi, ukukhangela ulonwabo kunye nokungakhuseleki. Thandeka: funeka sithethe imema abafundi ukuba bazihlole kwaye bazazi ngokwabo.
Isishwankathelo sezahluko ezine zokuqala ze Thandeka: funeka sithethe
Thandeka: funeka sithethe inesalathiso esingaqhelekanga ngokwemigangatho yangoku. Imixholo yale ncwadi yahlulwe yazizahluko ezihlanu ezikhulu ezithi, ngokulandelelana, zahlulwe zibe ngamacandelo amancinane.
Ubume bayo bufana kakhulu nomthamo wesicatshulwa onokuphononongwa amaxesha ngamaxesha., ngexesha apho amathandabuzo avela malunga neengcebiso ezihlanganiswe ngu-Elizabeth Clapés. Nazi iibhloko ezenza lo msebenzi:
Iimpazamo esizenzileyo: ityala
Emva kwentshayelelo emfutshane yombhali, apho abhekisela koko umfundi anokukufumana kwincwadi yakhe, noko kufanele kuthatyathelwe ingqalelo ngaphambi kokuyifunda, Thandeka: funeka sithethe yenza indlela eya kwisahluko sokuqala: "Iimpazamo esizenzileyo: ityala."
Ngaye, U-Elizabeth Clapés uyabhengeza -ngokulula okumangalisayo, ukusondela kunye nokunyaniseka- indlela umntu axakwe ngayo lityala, kungekuphela nje ngenxa yoko akwenzileyo, kodwa kuzo zonke izihlandlo apho wayevumele into okanye umntu ukuba amenze buhlungu.
Sonke siye sazenza iimpazamo, kodwa ukubaleka okanye ukuba lixhoba lazo akuyi kuzitshintsha.. Ngokutsho kuka-Elizabeth Clapés, into efanelekileyo kukuvuma impazamo, uxolo kubantu abachaphazelekayo, ukwamkela ukusabela (ukugatya, ukubulela okanye ukungakhathali) kwaye emva koko uvumele ukungahambi kakuhle ukuqhubela phambili. Emva koko, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba yimpazamo evela kwixesha elidlulileyo elingasasimeliyo, kwaye asiyi kuphinda senze kwakhona.
"Kufuneka uzazi ukuba ungubani"
Emva kwesahluko sokuqala kunye nezahlulo zaso ezihlukeneyo, apho abafundi banokufumana khona iimfundiso ezinje ngokuthi "zama ukuziphathisa ngokungathi singabahlobo bethu abasenyongweni", kufika ixesha apho umbhali ugxininisa isihloko esothusayo: into yokuba sisoyika ukuhlala kuphela nathi.
Kukule candelo apho U-Elizabeth Clapés wenza umfundi ajonge esipilini, kwaye uqonde ukuba usahlala nawe, nokuba kufuneka uvule umabonwakude ukuze ungathuli.
Imihla ngemihla ixakekile kangangokuba ayishiyi ixesha lokucinga ngokuthe cwaka, leyo apho kungekho chungechunge lweNetflix, okanye amanqaku elizwi, okanye umculo, okanye abahlobo abanayo indawo. Isiphumo kukuba sigqibe ekubeni singazinanzi iimfuno zethu, kude kube, ngenye imini, zininzi kakhulu, kwaye singxoliswa emnyango.
Enye yeenkqubo ukuba icebisa umbhali ukunciphisa la matyala kuba sinikele ingqalelo koko kuboniswa yimizimba yethu. Kwangaxeshanye, ibethelela into yokuba asineli nje ukusabela njengombukeli.
"Hlangana neemvakalelo zakho"
Emva kokuqonda ukuba sinokuthatha usuku ukuba lusizi, kwaye kubalulekile ukufunda ukuqaphela iimfuno zethu, lixesha lokujongana neemeko zeemvakalelo.
U-Elizabeth Clapés uqala isahluko sesithathu echaza oko Iimvakalelo "ziimpendulo ezibonisa indlela esiziqhelanisa ngayo nengaphandle." Ezi zinto zizalisekisa umsebenzi oguqukayo, ngoko ke azilungile okanye zimbi, kodwa zimnandi okanye zingathandeki.
Ukubaluleka kwesahluko sesithathu kulele kubaluleke kangakanani ukuziqhelanisa nendlela yokwazi iimvakalelo nokuzilawula. Kwimeko apho imeko ivelisa imvakalelo enzulu kakhulu kwaye ingathandekiyo, isazi sengqondo sincoma ukuhoxisa okwethutyana kwaye siphulaphule oko umzimba wethu usixelela kona. Eminye imibuzo anokuyibuza umfundi yile: “Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngam? Ndiva ntoni?"
"Abantu abasoyikisayo kunye nesidingo sokwamkelwa okusivusayo"
Ibhloko yesine ivula ingxoxo malunga indlela esijongana ngayo okanye esisabela ngayo ezo abantu abagqithisa ukongama, intlonipho okanye uloyiko kuthi. Isenokuba ngumzali, umphathi, okanye kwanokuba ngumhlobo.
Kule meko, U-Elizabeth Clapés uqinisekisa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhlalutya ukuba kutheni sinika igunya kwisifundo. Isazi ngengqondo sicebisa ukuba xa sifumana umntu osiphatha njengabangaphantsi—enoba singubani na—kubalulekile ukubenza babone ukuba akukho mntu ufanele enze ngolo hlobo, yaye kwenziwa impazamo. Kufuneka siyifake ngaphakathi into yokuba sonke sinexabiso elifanayo kwaye sifanelwe yimbeko efanayo.
Imibuzo abafundi abanokuzibuza yona ukuchonga iimvakalelo zabo
- Apho kubuhlungu?;
- Ingaba ibabuhlungu nini?;
- Kuba kubuhlungu?;
- Ukususela nini kubuhlungu?
Uluhlu lwezahluko ezilandelayo zeDear Me: Kufuneka Sithethe
- 5. "Ufanele abe njani umntu ukuze ufune ukuba abe yinxalenye yobomi bakho, ngubani oza kumvumela ukuba angene";
- 5.1. "Akukho mntu kufuneka abe ubomi bonke ukuba awufuni";
- 5.2. "Ukwahlukana (naye nabani na) akukona ukusilela";
- 5.3. «Ukwazi indlela yokubeka imida kwaye wenze isigqibo ngento endingayithandiyo, into endingayinyamezeliyo kwabanye»;
- 5.4. "Iqamza lakho";
- 5.5. "Ngamana i-monster yakho yangaphakathi ingabulali nabani na";
- 5.6. "Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo";
- 6. "Isidingo sokulawula yonke into kunye nokukhathazeka okulindelekileyo";
- "Ndijonge phambili";
- 1. "Into endiyifunayo ebomini";
- 2. "Ukufuna asingomandla";
- 3. “Ungahlala nawe? Uyathanda? Kuba unobomi bakho bonke phambi kwakho »;
- 4. "Umntu womntu."
Malunga nombhali, uElizabeth Clapés
Elizabeth Clapes
U-Elizabeth Clapés yingcali yengqondo yaseSpain, umbhali, utitshala kunye nomyili womxholo. Wazalelwa waza wakhulela kwisiqithi sase-Ibiza. Emva koko wafudukela kwisixeko saseBarcelona ukuze afunde isayikholojisti, umsebenzi owawusoloko ubangel’ umdla kuye.
Njengengcali, yingcaphephe kwi Ubudlelwane bomtshato kunye ne-sexology yeklinikhi. Ukongeza, ngeintanethi zakhe zentlalo, unika iingcebiso zokuphucula ukuzithemba kwabalandeli bakhe, kwaye ahambe nabo kwiinkqubo zabo zonyango.
Ezinye iincwadi zikaElizabeth Clapés
- Ude uzithande: Sebenzela ukuzingca ngobuwena (2023).