Kholwa ungakholwa, ukubhala amabali abantwana inzima kakhulu kunokubhala inoveli. Ewe, asidlali, yinyani. Inyaniso yokuba kufuneka ulinganise amagama kakuhle kakhulu, yenza ukuba abantwana baqonde kwaye, ngaphezu kwakho konke, babenze bonwabe kwaye kwangaxeshanye bafunde izinto akulula. Ngaba uyakwazi ukubhala amabali abantwana?
Ukuba ufuna ukuzama kodwa awazi 100% into ekufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo, ngoko siya kukunika zonke izitshixo ukwenza kwaye, mhlawumbi ungabi nampumelelo ngeyokuqala, kodwa ukusondela kuyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Yiba nombono olungileyo
Mhlawumbi eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekubhaleni amabali abantwana kukuba nombono olungileyo. into yokuqala, edibanisa nabantwana kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into ebabambayo.
Amaxesha amaninzi kumabali abantwana imizobo inikwa ingqwalasela enkulu kunebali ngokwalo, xa kufanele ukuba ngenye indlela. Kuyinyani ukuba uya kuxhomekeka kuloo mifanekiso ukubandakanya abafundi abancinci, kodwa kunjalo kufuneka ubanike ibali elibadibanisayo.
Gcina ukhumbula iminyaka yabantwana
Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka ofuna ukugxila kuyo, amabali aya kuba ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi amade. Umzekelo, kwimeko yabantwana abancinci, baya kukhangela iincwadi ezimfutshane ezinemizobo emininzi; kodwa kumntu omdala baya kudlula inani lamaphepha baze banciphise imifanekiso.
Ukukunika umbono; akufanele wenze incwadi yabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-10 kwaye ulindele ukuba umntwana oneminyaka esi-7 ayiqonde, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo ayenzi njalo.
Okanye incwadi yabantwana abaneminyaka emi-3 ethandwa ngabaneminyaka eyi-10. Eyona nto "ethambileyo" abaza kukuxelela yona kukuba yinto yabantwana kakhulu kubo.
Kodwa kukho esinye isizathu sokuba kufuneka ugcine iminyaka engqondweni: ulwimi oza kulisebenzisa ukubalisa.
Xa abantwana beselula, indlela abazichaza ngayo nendlela abaqonda ngayo ayifani naxa sele bebadala. Ngoko kufuneka ululungelelanise ulwimi lwakho kwiminyaka yobudala oyijongileyo ukunxibelelana nabo.
Lo mzuzu abantwana befunda okanye beva into esenokubonakala ngathi ibhalelwe bona (ngokweminyaka yabo) bayaqhawuka. Kwaye le yeyona nto inzima kakhulu kuba kufuneka udibanise njengombhali kunye nomntwana wakho oselusana ukuba "abe ngumntwana."
lawula abalinganiswa bakho
Nje ukuba uchaze iminyaka yebali lakho unokubamisela abalinganiswa abaya kuba yinxalenye yebali. Nifanele nazi ukuba abancinci abantwana kufuneka kubekho abalinganiswa abambalwa, kuba kungenjalo banokubandakanyeka kwaye bangayiqondi.
Ngokubanzi, kulungile ukuba kubekho umlinganiswa omnye okanye ababini kuphela, kunye nabancinci abambalwa, kodwa hayi enye into. Njengokuba abantwana besiya bekhula, ungabazisa abanye abalinganiswa, kodwa kusoloko kululuvo olulungileyo ukusebenzisa obona buncinane obunokwenzeka.
sithetha ngabalinganiswa, izilwanyana zezona zisetyenziswayo, ngokuba baseka iqhina elincinane nabantwana. Yiyo loo nto, kumabali abantwana, kukho abaninzi abanabo njengabalinganiswa.
Lixesha lokubhala
Emva kokwazi abaphulaphuli bakho, abalinganiswa kunye nebali, inyathelo elilandelayo kukuqalisa ukubhala. Khumbula ukuba amabali abantwana awamade njengenoveli, kodwa anjalo kufuneka ushwankathele ibali kakuhle kwaye unike zonke iinkcukacha ezichanekileyo, hayi ngaphezulu.
Ukuba uphumelele yonke into, kunokwenzeka ukuba uyibhale emva kwemini, kwaye unokuphinda uyiphonononge kwangaloo mini (okanye ezi zilandelayo). Kodwa ukuba lide, unokufuna iintsuku ezininzi. Into esiyicebisayo kukuba ungayishiyi de uyigqibe kuba, kungenjalo, kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi kuwe ukuba uqalise kwakhona kwaye uqhubeke ngendlela efanayo owawunayo.
Phonononga ulwimi lwebali labantwana
Sele uligqibile ibali. !!Halala!! Nangona kunjalo, xa sibhala amabali abantwana senza impazamo eqhelekileyo: sebenzisa ulwimi olungabafanelanga abantwana. Amabinzana amade, amagama abangawaqondi, iindlela zokuzivakalisa abangekaqondi...
Konke oku kunokonakalisa ibali lokuqala onalo. Ngesi sizathu, elinye lamanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe kuku Hlaziya ulwimi lwebali. Qinisekisa ukuba ubhale ngendlela elula kakhulu, enezivakalisi ezifutshane kwaye azinazimvo ezininzi kunye ezinokulahlekisa aba bancinane.
mnike umntwana
Alukho uvavanyo olungcono lokubona ukuba ibali labantwana liluphumelele na uvavanyo kunokunika umntwana omnye, okanye abaliqela. Ukuba abaphulaphuli bancinci kakhulu, ngoko kungcono ukubalisa ibali. Kuphela ke uya kukwazi ukuba ibali lilungile ngokwaneleyo ukuze abantwana babe nomdla.
Umzekelo, ukuba libali labantwana abancinane kakhulu, unokubabalisela, mhlawumbi ngexesha lokulala, okanye emva kwemini, ukuze ubone enoba liyawuvusa umdla wabo kusini na. Ewe, sele uyazi ukuba xa uxelela kufuneka ubeke amazwi kwaye utshintshe isigqi; kungenjalo, nokuba ilungile, awuyi kuyithanda.
Kwimeko apho ibali lenzelwe abaphulaphuli abadala ngakumbi (kodwa ngaphandle kokuyeka ukuba ngabantwana), zama ukushiya kubo kwaye bakunike uluvo lwabo olunyanisekileyo. Ukuba uyayithanda, ukuba akunjalo, yintoni oye wayithanda ngakumbi, yintoni encinci, ungadibanisa ntoni ngaphezulu okanye ungasusa ntoni. Konke oku kunokukunika umbono wokuba ngaba kufuneka uliguqule ibali.
Ukuba ufuna ukuyithumela...
Ekugqibeleni, ukuba idlulile ezandleni zomntwana kwaye uyonwabele, lixesha lokuba ucinge ukuba ungayipapasha na okanye uyishiye igcinwe kwidrowa.
Kwimeko yokuqala, unokhetho ezimbini: Kwelinye icala, yithumele kubavakalisi uze ulindele ukuba bakuphendule. ukuba banomdla wokuyipapasha (khumbula ukuba abafanele bakucele imali yokupapasha kunye nabo); okanye uzipapashe ngokwakho. Kule meko unengxaki eyongezelelweyo kwaye oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kokuba ungumzobi olungileyo, kuya kufuneka uhlawule umntu ukuba adwebe okanye abonise iinxalenye zebali (ekubeni, ngaphandle koko, abancinci abayi kuthanda). Kwaye ke kuya kufuneka uyicwangcise kwaye uyilayishe ukuyipapasha (okanye uyithumele kubashicileli beencwadi zephepha).
Ngamanye amagama, sathetha ngokutyala imali kuyo (kodwa ngenjongo yokwenza inzuzo, kunjalo).
Khawusixelele, uwabhala njani amabali abantwana? Ngaba unokunikela naliphi na icebiso kwabanye abafuna ukuyenza?