Abantu abanetyhefu: indlela yokujongana nabantu abenza nzima ubomi bakho yincwadi ka-2010 epapashwe ngu B yePocket (Penguin Random House). Imalunga ne incwadi efundisayo ngolawulo lobudlelwane ebhalwe nguBernardo Stamateas. Iyinxalenye yengqokelela yeencwadana ezichaza kwaye zinike izikhokelo zokulawula ubutyhefu kubomi bethu. Oku kuncediswa ngokukodwa Abantu abanetyhefu ngakumbi: yintoni abo bafuna ukuba uzive ulungile? (2014), enesinye isihlokwana esicebisayo.
Isazi ngengqondo saseArgentina uBernardo Stamateas ubonisa uluhlu lwabalinganiswa abantsonkothileyo abanyakazela kubomi bomntu wonke, uyasilumkisa ngabo kwaye isinika ingcebiso esebenzayo yokubeka into enzima ngamanye amaxesha: imida.
Abantu abanetyhefu: indlela yokujongana nabantu abenza nzima ubomi bakho
Ukuhla kwishishini: ityhefu yoluntu
Umntu ungumntu wentlalo ngokwendalo kwaye nakweyiphi na intsimi yobomi sijikelezwe ngabantu: usapho, isikolo kunye neyunivesithi, umsebenzi, abahlobo, abamelwane, iqabane ... Kukho ezinye ezisigcwalisa ngokumangalisayo ngamandla kwaye zenza ubomi. kulula kuthi. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uye wadibana ngaphezu kwesinye isihlandlo nomntu osifunxa amandla nokhuthazo lwakho. Ngesizathu esinye okanye ezininzi kunzima ukuhamba, ukuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukufunda ukuhlala kunye (umzekelo, emsebenzini) kwaye, kungekhona nje, funda ukulawula indlela esinxulumana ngayo kunye nokuseka imida esigcina ekubandezelekeni kokuba kunye nomntu Inetyhefu.
UBernardo Stamateas wenza umfanekiso wobuntu kwincwadi yakhe Abantu abanetyhefu. Uchaza ezinye iintlobo zengqondo kwaye uyavelana nomfundi wakhe ofumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba akayedwa kule ngxaki yobudlelwane kunye neemvakalelo. Kuba xa unxulumana nesibini, kufuneka ufunde ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, imida yakho kwaye uthintele omnye umntu ekulawuleni imeko. Umbhali uzama ukucacisa ubudlelwane esinabo nabanye kwaye ukwanceda ukuqonda loo makhonkco ayingozi asithintela ukuba siphile ubomi obunoxolo.. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokuzikhulula, ngamanye amaxesha sinokwenza olo lwalamano lube lithuba ukuba sisebenza ngoxanduva lweemvakalelo, kwaye kwezinye iimeko kufuneka sifunde ukuseka into esiyifunayo kunye nantoni na, into esizimisele ukuyihambisa kunye nemigca ebomvu okanye imida. ayinakugqithwa ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ezinye zeengqwalasela zencwadi
Akukho mntu uthe kulula ukumisela imida esempilweni kwaye uphume womelele ngaphandle kokonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Le ncwadi icinezela ubunzima bobudlelwane, ukujongana nezifundo Inetyhefu kunye nobuthathaka ngokweemvakalelo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha phezu kwethu xa sisebenzisa igumbi elinye kunye esa umntu. Ngokunjalo, ibonakalisa aba bantu kwaye inika izikhokelo malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana nabo, nakwiimeko apho siphulukana nolawulo.
Kwaye akufanele silibale ukuba yincwadi yokuzinceda kwaye ezinye zezikhokelo zakhe zinokungachanekanga, njengoko amabinzana athile anokuvakala ephindaphinda kuba eqhelekilenangona kungekho nyani ngaphantsi. I-Stamateas, nangona kunjalo, ibhala ngokucacileyo kwaye ezinye iingcebiso zobomi bemihla ngemihla zinokukhutshwa. Eyona nto ibalaseleyo kule ncwadi luluhlu lwabantu abanetyhefu ngokweentlobo. Ngaphandle kokungena kwiinkcukacha ezintsonkothileyo, ubuntu bunokuba luncedo ekuqondeni (okanye mhlawumbi ukuzazi?) Abo banomona, abakhohlisayo, abaneengxaki, okanye abacinezeli abeza bahambe ebomini bethu.
Le ncwadi ithathela ingqalelo abantu abachubekileyo, abanomona, abangafanelekiyo, abathukayo, abaxokayo, abanengqondo, abaphakathi, abahlebayo, umphathi onobuzwilakhe, umntu onengqondo, umntu okhohlisayo, onekratshi kunye nomntu okhalazayo.
Izigqibo
Abantu abanetyhefu Yincwadi yokuzinceda elula kwaye imnandi kwasekuqaleni. Nika uthotho lweebrushstrokes zeentlobo zengqondo ezinokuba luncedo ekuchongeni abo bantu kwindawo yakho ebenza nzima ubomi bakho. Nangona kunjalo, ayinabo ubunzulu bengqondo yengqondo, kwaye iindlela ezichazwe ukuzigcina zingekho zincinci. Ukuba yincwadi emfutshane kwaye ifundeka ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ithengiswe ngempumelelo enkulu, inokutsala ingqalelo kwaye ibe lukhetho lokudibanisa kwindlela yokudala ubudlelwane obungcono.
Sobre el autor
UBernardo Stamateas wazalelwa eBuenos Aires ngo-1965. Waqeqeshwa kwiPsychology kwiYunivesithi yaseKennedy kwaye kamva wathatha i-Sexology njengento ekhethekileyo. Ungowe-Argentina Society of Human Sexuality kwaye ukwalilungu le-Ministry of God Baptist Church, esebenza njengomfundisi kwindawo yaseBuenos Aires eCaballito. Wayenendawo yezempilo kwikhonkco laseArgentina.
Ukusasaza kunye namandla akhe okunxibelelana kuye kwamkhokelela ekubeni abe nokhuselo olukhulu ngaphandle kwelizwe lakhe lokuzalwa. Ngokufanayo, iincwadi zakhe ziyangqina umsebenzi oyimpumelelo nowaziwayo kwinkalo yezempilo, uphuhliso lwabantu kunye nokomoya. Eminye yemisebenzi yakhe edumileyo yile iimvakalelo eziyityhefu, ukondla abantu, Ukuzola ngokweemvakalelo, ukusilela ngempumelelo o autoboycott.