Izindawo ezithuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho njengombhali

Kunezikhathi eziningi lapho i- ukuntula ugqozi, ukuvinjelwa, noma ukwesaba okwesabekayo "kwekhasi elingenalutho" zisivimbela ekuqhubekeni nemibhalo yethu (izinkondlo, inoveli, indaba, njll.). Kungalezi zikhathi lapho kufanele sisebenzise izinsizakusebenza zethu (ezifanele ukudilizwa) njengababhali asebevele benolwazi futhi bekujwayele, okwenziwe "ohlwini lwengqondo", ngemisebenzi kanye nokuzivocavoca okufanele kwenziwe uma lokhu kwenzeka.

Okulandelayo, sizokunikeza uchungechunge lwe- amathiphu okwandisa ubuhlakani bakho futhi sizokubiza ngamagama athile izindawo ezithuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho njengombhali. Impela usuvele unakho okulungiselelwe kwakho, kepha nikeza ithuba laba abanye esibethula lapha ... Bayakhuthaza impela.

Ngingakhuphula kanjani ubuciko bami?

• Bukela ama-movie (eshashalazini noma ekhaya): Ukujabulela ubuciko besikhombisa kungukuzivocavoca okuhle ukukhuthaza ubuhlakani bethu nokuthola imibono ngezehlakalo esizibonayo noma indaba ejwayelekile yefilimu. Uma ushiywe ungenalutho futhi ungazi ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani nendaba yakho, ukubona i-movie enhle njengenketho yokuqala kungakusiza kakhulu.

• Phumula futhi unqamule ingqondo yakho: Ngiyazi kulula ukusho kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza. Lapho sigxile ekubhaleni futhi ngokungazelelwe sinemigoqo, kuba nzima kakhulu kithi ukuthi singacabangi ngakho futhi singadli amakhanda ethu ukuze sikwazi ukubheka ithuba elenza siqhubeke nokubhala kwethu. Kepha noma kunjalo, kufanele uzame. Ukuphumula nokunqamula ekubhaleni kwakho kuzokuvumela ukuthi ukubone kusuka komunye umbono lapho ungaba nendlela yokuqhubeka khona.

• Lee: Ukufunda (uma kungenzeka, izincwadi ezinhle) kuzothuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho. Ufunda ukubhala hhayi ngokubhala kuphela, kodwa futhi nangokufunda okuhle kakhulu (okungenzeka, futhi phakathi kokunye, bahlupheke nangokuvinjelwa emisebenzini yabo yezincwadi).

• Thatha uhambo lokuzivocavoca umzimba noma uvivinye umzimba: Ukuvivinya umzimba akukuhle kuphela emzimbeni nasekusebenzeni kahle komzimba, kepha kuyabuye kuphumule futhi kukhonze ukunqamula engqondweni konke (ukucindezeleka, izinkinga, ukukhathala, njll.). Ukwenza ihora lokuzivocavoca nsuku zonke ngeke nje kuphela kukusebenzise ngokwengeziwe ngokomzimba, kodwa futhi uzoba "yizithutha" ngokwengqondo.

• Khuluma nalabo abaseduze kwakho ubatshele ngebhulokhi yakho: Ukukhuluma ngakho nabantu abasizungezile ngeke kusikhulule kancane ngaphakathi ekuvinjelweni kwethu njengababhali kepha kuzophinda kusinike izixazululo zokuthi singakuxazulula kanjani. Kwesinye isikhathi, kubonakala ngaphandle, yonke into ingaba nombono ohlukile ngakho-ke, isixazululo esihlukile kunaleso esivame ukusicabangela.

Iziphi izindawo ezingakhuphula ubuciko bami bokubhala?

• Iziteshi zezitimela noma zamabhasi: Awukaze uzame ukucabanga ngempilo yalabo abahamba ngokuzungezile futhi abazi lutho nhlobo? Yebo, iziteshi zesitimela noma zamabhasi ziyindawo efanelekile, ngenxa yenani elikhulu labantu abahlukahlukene abadlula lapho.

• Kwenye indawo igcwele imvelo lapho ungezwa khona umsindo owodwa wabantu (lapho ukucula kwezinyoni, amagagasi olwandle noma umoya kuphela kwemisindo ebonakalayo). Kuthiwani ngepaki enkulu engasebenzi kakhulu? Kuthiwani ngolwandle noma echibini elidlulisa ukuthula okuningi nokuthula?

• Izitolo zekhofi: Oda ikhofi noma itiye futhi ujabulele ukubhala kwakho ngenkathi ulalele umsindo wangemuva ovela kwizithandani noma kubangani abaxoxa ngokukhululeka nangesikhathi esithile. Kuthiwani eduze kwefasitela elikhulu elinombono omuhle womgwaqo? Mhlawumbe lena yindawo lapho uzothola khona ubuhlakani nogqozi oludingayo.

• Imitapo yolwazi: Iyiphi indawo engcono yokuthola kabusha isifiso sokubhala kunasendaweni egcwele izincwadi ezibhalwe abanye abaningi? Iphelele! Uma ungumlobi odinga ukuthula ukuze ugxilise ingqondo, imitapo yolwazi iyindawo yakho emhlabeni ... Futhi, uma usavinjelwe noma uvinjelwe, lapho uzothola izincwadi ezingenakubalwa ezingasebenza njengesikhuthazo ngemuva kokuzifunda noma imanuwali yabalobi izinsiza ezingapheli zokuthuthukisa amakhono akho okubhala.

Uma kunjalo, ngemuva kokwenza zonke izeluleko esikunikeze zona noma ukuya kuzo zonke izindawo esizincomile, ama-muses namanje awakuvakasheli, kungcono ukuthi ukuvumele lokho kubhala kuphumule isizini (izinyanga ezimbalwa) bese uzama ukwenza elinye ilungelo zisuka nje. Ngemuva kwesikhathi, buyela kuyo, uzobona ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ngaphandle kwezinkinga.