Awuyona inkinga
Awuyona inkinga: ziqonde futhi uziphilise ngemva kobudlelwane nabantu abangaba narcissistic iyincwadi yokuzisiza ebhalwe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseSpain, uthisha kanye nombhali u-Elizabeth Clapés. Umsebenzi washicilelwa ngoMeyi 30, 2014 yindlu yokushicilela yaseMontena. Ekuqalisweni kwayo, ivolumu ithole ukwamukelwa okuhle kwabagxeki kanye nomphakathi ofundayo, ithola impumelelo yokuthengisa engavimbeki.
Leli qiniso lingabonakala ngobuningi babo. kumapulatifomu afana ne-Goodreads ne-Amazon, kuphi Awuyona inkinga Inezinkanyezi ezingu-4.52 nezingu-4.7, ngokulandelana. Kusukela eqala ukubonakala emhlabeni wezincwadi nge Thandeka: sidinga ukukhuluma, uClapés waba omunye wamazwi alalelwa kakhulu ku-psychology ekhuluma iSpanishi, futhi kulokhu akufani.
Amazwibela we Awuyona inkinga
Umhlahlandlela wokuthola i-narcissist
I-priori, isihloko salokhu incwadi yokuzisiza Kuyamangaza kakhulu, njengoba, ekuphileni, bonke abantu bazimisele ukwenza amaphutha. Nokho, nini Clapés Uthi “awuyona inkinga.” isho ngokuqondile ubudlelwano nama-narcissists. Kuzo, kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu owenza konke okusemandleni akhe, abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyehluleka ngokungaphezi, nakuba kungewona umthwalo wakhe.
Ukugcina ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo ne-narcissist akugcini nje ngokuqeda amandla, kodwa, ezimweni eziningi, onayo akaqondi nokuthi udinga usizo, njengoba i-narcissist okukhulunywa ngayo ikwazi ukuvala zonke izindawo zokuphuma zesikhungo sakhe sosekelo. Izihloko ezinalesi simo ziqamba amanga, ziqondise futhi zihlanekezele imicimbi ngendlela evumelana ngayo.
I-narcissist iziphatha kanjani?
Okokuqala, Kudingekile ukucacisa ukuthi i-narcissist ingaba noma ubani: umama, ubaba, umfowethu, umngane noma umlingani.. Umuntu onalolu hlobo lokuziphatha uvame ukwenza ontanga yakhe bakholelwe ukuthi ubalulekile, cishe umngane womshado. Ngokufanayo, ijwayele ukufana ne-chameleon, ngokusobala iziguqula ibe yilokho okukholelwa ukuthi idinga.
Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi i-narcissist izizwa iphakeme kunabanye, futhi inconywa yilabo abamthandayo. Ngokolunye uhlangothi, Kungokwemvelo kubo ukukhohlisa kuze kube yilapho kulula ukungabaza ukuhlakanipha komuntu siqu, ngisho nokwenza isisulu sibe umuntu othembele kuye, ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo nangokomzwelo. Ngendlela efanayo, i-narcissist iba isisulu, kuyilapho iba "umsindisi."
Ezinye izici eziphawulekayo ze-narcissistic disorder
Uma umuntu ohlala nenarcissist ezama ukuhamba, laba bamuva bazozama ngazo zonke izindlela ukubenza bahlale noma babuye. Ngaphandle kwalokho, Unomkhuba wokucisha noma ukumunca yonke into ehlanganisa uthando lwakhe, abahlale bekhumbula ukuthi babenjani ngaphambi kokuba i-narcissist ingene ezimpilweni zabo, futhi bayayikhumbula leyo nguqulo yabo ukuthi ngeke balulame.
Ngokunjalo umuntu oyisisulu senyoni uyazi ukuthi kumele abaleke, kodwa engazi ukuthi enze njani. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, Kwabacindezelweyo, ukuhamba kungasho ukugxumela esikhaleni. Nokho, Awuyona inkinga Yenzelwe, ngokunembile, ukuphula lezi zinhlobo zamaphethini wokucabanga ngezipuni ezinkulu zokuzithanda.
Isitayela sokulandisa sika-Elizabeth Clapés
Awuyona inkinga iyincwadi yesayensi yezengqondo neyokuthuthuka komuntu siqu ebhalelwe abantu abafayo. Lokho kusho ukuthi: Awudingi iziqu ze-master ukuze ukuqonde. Njengenjwayelo, u-Elizabeth Clapés uthatha isikhathi sokuchaza imiqondo eyinkimbinkimbi ngendlela eseduze, elula. Ukuyifunda kufana nokuhlala phansi uphuze ikhofi nomngane omuhle okwaziyo ukufunda izingqondo.
UClapés, ngokuzwela kwakhe okungokwemvelo, uthatha umfundi uhambo oluchazwa ngendlela elula, nakuba kunzima ukuyilandela. Awuyona inkinga ibiza ukubuyisana nawe, ukunikezana lokho ukwanga okudingekayo ukuze kutholakale amandla alahlekile ngenxa yobugovu noma ukugula kwabanye. Kungumqulu ogcwele ulwazi, izibonelo kanye nokuzivocavoca okumele kulandelwe ukuze uthuthuke.
Umlayezo onamandla
Esinye sezifundo ezibuhlungu nezangempela ezishiwo yile ncwadi ukuthi, Akunandaba ukuthi unothando nesineke kangakanani ngomuntu ophuza utshwala, ukuziphatha kwakho akusoze kwaguquka. Abanalesi sifo abawathathi amathuluzi ukuze bayeke ukulimaza abaseduze kwabo, yize benikezwe wona. Ngalo mqondo, impendulo engcono kakhulu ibanga elinempilo.
Enye yempumelelo enkulu yevolumu ukucaca umbhali abhala ngakho ngalesi sihloko esibucayi, izinto azinikezayo ukuze ahlukanise ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic, kanye nesiqondiso sakhe esisebenzayo nesifinyelelekayo. Awuyona inkinga kungaba uguquko kulabo asebevele babhekana nalesi simo, noma emotweni kulabo abasanda kuyishiya futhi abangafisi ukubuya.
Mayelana nomlobi
U-Elizabeth Clapés, owaziwa kangcono ezinkundleni zokuxhumana njengo-Esmipsiccología, wazalelwa esiqhingini sase-Ibiza, eSpain. Kamuva, Wathuthela e-Barcelona ukuze abhalise e-Faculty of Psychology, indawo abelokhu ezifela ngayo. Ngaphakathi komsebenzi wakhe, unguchwepheshe kwezobudlelwano kanye nesayensi yezocansi yasemtholampilo, futhi wabelana ngezeluleko zezempilo yengqondo emiphakathini yakhe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngabantu bale miphakathi okuholele ekutheni azenzele eyakhe iwebhusayithi, lapho, ehlangene nabanye ochwepheshe, izinikele ekunakekeleni iziguli ezinezinkinga ezingokomzwelo ezihlukene, esebenza njengosekelo lwezigidi zabasebenzisi. Kwa-Esmipsicologa.com kukhona ibhulogi, ngaphezu kwalokho, izikhathi zokwelapha ziyanikezwa futhi kubanjwe imihlangano yokufundisa ngokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ezinye izincwadi zika-Elizabeth Clapés
- Thandeka: sidinga ukukhuluma (2022);
- Nize nithandane (2023);
- Ngilahlekelwe nguwe ukuze ngizithole (2023).
Ezinye izincwadi ze-psychology ongazifunda
- Ukukhuluma Ngomqondo (ngu-Adrián Triglia, Bertrand Regader noJonathan García Allen);
- Iqiniso elimangalisayo ngalokho okusikhuthazayo (nguDaniel Pink);
- Ukuvusa inhliziyo: Ikhono lokuzithanda kahle (nguSandra García Sánchez Beato);
- I-Psychotrolas: Amanga angokwengqondo omhlaba wethu wedijithali (nguRubén Camacho);
- Ibheke ekwelashweni okusekelwe kwinqubo (nguSteven C. Hayes);
- Ubuciko bokuthanda (ngu-Erich Fromm);
- Sawubona, injabulo: Ungakunqoba kanjani ukudabuka futhi uzuze ukulingana ngokomzwelo (nguJesus Martos Larrinaga).