Kwinyanga ephelile Ndapapasha inoveli yam yokuqala. Yayikukubethana kwethamsanqa ebendingakulindelanga kwaye iya kuba nendlela enayo. Kodwa ndiyibonile kwaye ikhona ephepheni elinye lamabali am, kuninzi esele ndibhalile, nangona le ibaluleke kakhulu kum.

Kule nqaku elikhethekileyo eliphakathi ndiza kuzivumela khuthaza oogxa bakho kwaye wenze iingcebiso eziphambili ukuze ezo tekisi zikubone ukukhanya. Kwindima ye ukuhlela okanye ukuzipapasha.

Ibali lakho

Kukuxabise kakhulu ukuyibhala (okanye hayi, kum Marie kundithathe iinyanga ezintathu kuphela). Mhlawumbi ekuqaleni, kwaye njengoko kuhlala kusenzeka kubabhali abaninzi, elo bali lelakho nje. Uchithe ubomi bakho bonke ubhala kwiphepha elingenanto okanye uchwetheza phambi kwescreen sombala ofanayo. Ube iiyure zokulala, ukutya, abantwana, kunye neqabane lakho. Eli bali liqhubeke kakuhle ezinye iintsuku okanye linamathele kwabanye. Kwakukho ngaphezulu kwesinye ukuvaleka okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba kuba ii-muses zikulahlile kwaye azabuya. Kodwa umhla uyeza xa ubhala ixesha lokugqibela.

Emva koko uziva wanelisekile, ukhululekile, unebhongo, okanye uyoyika. Kuvakala njengebali elilungileyo kuwe, kodwa ngaba ngenene liyinyani? Uyidlulisele kwaba bahlobo, okanye abo ubeka ukuzibophelela kuba kuvela ukuba banokungakuthandi kwaye bangoyiki ukukuxelela. Kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo, baya kukuxelela inyani, nokuba yintoni. Njenge familia.

Kodwa sele unayo loo nto. Kufuneka usoloko ujonge kuloo nto asinako ukuthanda wonke umntu, nokuba thina okanye amabali ethu. Ke kuya kufuneka uyamkele. Kodwa usakholelwa kweyakho. Ukugqibelela. Ngoku kukho amathuba aliwaka endingawafumani ngokuqinisekileyo.

Abapapashi bemveli

Bambalwa abaseleyo, kodwa bahlala. Babheja ngababhali abatsha kwaye batyala imali kubo, kwinkqubo yokuhlela nasekuhambiseni umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa baninzi ababhali kunye namabali kwaye ukuba utyalomali, ngokwamathuba abo, alufikeleli kubo ukunika ukubonakala okanye ukwazisa. Oko kukwinqanaba elincinci, kodwa awungekhe ucele ngakumbi kwilizwe lokupapasha elitshintshileyo kwaye litshintsha ngomzuzu.

Kuphela ngabavakalisi abakhulu abaqhuba ukubhala okukhulu kumagama amakhulu (okanye awona athengisa kakhulu) kwaye basungula amaphulo amakhulu orhwebo. Ezincinci neziphakathi zanele ngokwaneleyo kunye nohlelo lwazo oluncinci noluphakathi, ezinye zazo ziphantse zenziwe ngezandla, kodwa zinesidima, zikhathalelwe zaze zahlengahlengiswa kutyalo-mali lwazo. Kusengqiqweni oko. Ke ngumbhali Lowo kufuneka asebenze ukubonakala kunye noluntu.

Kuyinyani ukuba bekukho izinto ezininzi zoncwadi ngesiqhelo ngelizwi lomlomo okanye ngenxa yokuba babambe ingqalelo yearhente engenileyo ngempumlo elungileyo. Kodwa masiqaphele ukuba baninzi ababhali abazimeleyo abafuna ubomi.

Iinkonzo zohlelo

Ngokuchanekileyo lelo nani Inani elikhulu lababhali unomdla wokupapasha leyo iququzelela ukwanda kwe Uninzi lwabapapashi lubonelela ngokunyanga inkqubo ngeenkonzo zabo zokuhlela (ukuphononongwa kokufundwayo, ubeko, njl. njl.), ukuhanjiswa kunye urhwebo Kwiiphakheji okanye kukhetho lomboleki emva kokuhlawula ixabiso ngokwemfuno. Ishishini esemthethweni njengaye nawuphina umntu kwaye ikwavumela ukupapashwa kwakhe nawuphi na umbhali (okanye nawuphina umntu ozinikele ekubhaleni).

Utyalo-mali kuwe. Kusemthethweni kakhulu. Emva koko qhubeka. Inokuvavanywa kubo bonke, nangona kukho umahluko osoloko uvelisa impikiswano: Ngubani othathela ingqalelo umgangatho webali Umshicileli wesiko okanye lowo uthengisa iinkonzo zalo?

Ngokwenyani, eyona nto ihlala ingumxholo wengxoxo yile mgangatho, kodwa asinakuze siphele ukuba singena kuyo ngoku. Nangona kunjalo, sinokuyilinganisela kwinkalo enye: ibali lingalunga kakhulu, kodwa kwiphepha lokuqala lineempazamo ezintlanu, Impazamo yomdlalo kunye nesibini kwis syntax.

Kulungile ndiza kunika idatha yesandla sokuqala: kukho abahleli bemveli abangaqhubeki bafunda. Kwaye kukuba bayaphambuka, ngengqondo elungileyo kuba ayingomsebenzi wabo, leyo umbhali uphonononge umbhalo wakhe obhaliweyo ngaphambi kokuyithumela. Kuba (okanye kufanelekile) kusengqiqweni ukuba umbhali alwazi ulwimi kunye nemithetho yalo esisiseko eyamkelekileyo kakuhle.

Ukuphonononga, ulungise, unakekele uhlobo lwebali lakho

Es ibaluleke njengomxholo wayo. Ngapha koko, yindlela, ukuchaneka kwesicatshulwa, esiququzelela, sakha kwaye senze ukuba umxholo uqondakale.

Ngelishwa oku isiseko asikaqwalaselwa yintoni na. Ndiyaphinda, ibali elikhulu elingajongiswanga, elinempazamo zopelo, ezineziphumlisi ezingafakwanga kakuhle nezingakhange zicwangciswe kakuhle, zinokuphelela enkunkumeni ngaphandle kwamathuba ongezelelweyo.

Ukufundisa ulwimi kubonakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwabo bazithatha njengombhali, umhleli okanye ingcali kwezonxibelelwano (ezibhaliweyo okanye eziviwayo), kodwa ngamanye amaxesha oku akunjalo. Ke ukuba upelo, igrama, okanye isintakisi isithende sakho se-Achilles, yazi kuqala kwaye uzame ukuphucula, ukufunda, okanye ukuphinda uhlaziye. Njani? Zininzi iincwadi kunye neendawo zokubhekisa ukubonisana nokuthandabuza esinako sonke. Ukuba ingxaki inkulu, unayo iinketho ezimbini:

• Abalungisi abaziingcali

Simbalwa kwaye silungile. Sijonga yonke into ukusuka kubhalo lwamagama ukuya kwisitayile, kwaye sihlala sicebisa kodwa singanyanzelisi iikhrayitheriya zethu, ngakumbi kweso sitayile. Ngumbhali onegama lokugqibela. Ewe kunjalo sinexabiso lethu, kodwa into kukuba ixesha linalo wonke umntu.

• Iinkonzo zohlelo

Abapapashi ababanikezelayo yinto yakho emva koko kwiinkonzo zabo zokulungisa uya kuqhubeka ukusifumana kwaye kuya kubakho amaxabiso.

Kodwa kufuneka uqaphele. Abapapashi bendabuko, abancinci, okanye amagcisa abachithi xesha kunye neempazamo zopelo. Ke ngokwakho. Inkqonkqoza kuyo yonke iminyango, nokuba yeyiphi na. Yamkela ukwaliwa uqhubeke, kodwa ...

Soloko unomoya olungileyo

Kuba kunjalo ukuzipapasha, esele isasazekile kwaye isetyenzisiwe. Kukho amaqonga aliwaka kunye nokumkanikazi womdaniso, iAmazon.

¿Yintoni ofuna ukuyifunda malunga nayo yonke inkqubo yokuhlela, Yenza incwadi yakho ngendlela yakho, uyimise kwaye uyile ikhava, uyazi ukuba kubiza malini ukuyithengisa, uyenze ngendlela yedijithali? Qhubeka. Ku nokuba njalo. Kuyinkimbinkimbi ngokuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lekhompyuter, iilwimi kunye nezakhono zokuyila onazo, kodwa yonke into kukubeka kwaye unako. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba unomnqweno, intshisakalo kwaye unomdla kwihlabathi lokupapasha, uyayenza. Amathandabuzo aliwaka? Kukho iindawo eziliwaka, zombini ukubonisana noqeqesho, ukufunda.

Kwaye ukwenza umsebenzi wakho ubonakale, akukho nto injengale, i-intanethi. Unonxibelelwano lwasentlalweni. Yenza ibhlog okanye iwebhusayithi, akukho nzima kwaye zizixhobo zasimahla. Cwangcisa ixesha lemihla ngemihla, bhala izinto phantsi kwaye wabelane ngazo, gcina isingqisho esithile kunye nomdla. Zonke iinkqubo zithatha ixesha kwaye amaxesha amaninzi ufuna into efana noogxa bakho, i-retweet okanye "elungileyo, yigcine, bendiyithanda kanjani!" ndiyokulala ndinelisekile.

Ewe sibaninzi, kodwa amabali ethu ahlukile, sinokubazisa kwaye siwapapashe. Bathanda ntoni? Ukunambitha imibala engapheliyo.