Ganawa da Rafael Santandreu, masanin halayyar dan adam kuma marubucin "Gilashin farin ciki"

Raphael Santandreu

A yau mun kawo muku hira da Rafael Santandreu, masanin halayyar dan adam kuma marubucin "Tabaran farin ciki" y "The art of not embittering rayuwa". Wannan karshen ya kasance babbar nasarar tallace-tallace a bara a cikin Sifen a cikin rukunin «waɗanda ba almara ba» kuma muna tunanin cewa tare "Tabaran farin ciki" kadan daga irin wannan zai faru. Mun bar ku da maganarsa.

Zuwa ga: Da farko dai, zamu so mu gode maka da ka bamu kadan daga lokacinka don gudanar da wannan tattaunawar, Rafael. Yana ɗaya daga cikin sanannun sanannun masana halayyar ɗan adam a cikin Sifen a yau, kuma ba kawai don hanyoyin kwantar da hankalinsa ba har ma don nasarar littafinsa a bara "The art of not embittering rayuwa", ɗayan mafi kyawun masu siyarwa idan ba mafi yawa ba a cikin rukunin "waɗanda ba almara ba" a cikin Spain. Me yasa kuke ganin littafinku yayi nasara?

RS: Littafina na farko ya yi nasara kwarai da gaske saboda yana da tasiri sosai. Ba na son littattafan taimakon kai da kai saboda na ɗauke su a matsayin "tarin kyawawan kalmomi," amma ba su da amfani sosai. Nau'in ilimin halayyar dan adam wanda nake yi shi ake kira "ilimin fahimta" kuma yana samun goyan baya ta fiye da karatu dubu biyu da aka buga a cikin mujallar kimiyya. Yawancin masu karatu na sun sayi ba kwafin Fasahar KADA KA Makingara Rayuwarka Bitaci ba, amma 10. Ganin canjin da ke faruwa a cikin su, suna ba su ga dangi da abokai.

Zuwa ga: Kuma ya yanke shawarar ba zai tsaya ga wannan rubutun ba kuma ‘yan watannin da suka gabata ya saki littafinsa na biyu ga kasuwar wallafe-wallafe, wanda ya kira ta "Tabaran farin ciki. Gano ƙarfin motsin zuciyar ku ". Ni kaina ban sami damar karanta shi ba tukuna. Za ku iya ba ni taƙaitaccen abin da zan iya samu a littafin?

RS: Zaka sami mabuɗan don canza halinka: don zama mai ƙarfi kamar yadda yake, misali, Stephen Hawking, masanin kimiyya a keken hannu. Idan kun canza maganganunku na ciki, motsin zuciyar ku zai canza. Dole ne kuyi atisaye, ku yi matsakaicin awa guda na aikin gida a rana, amma kyautar ita ce 'yanci da cikawa.

Gilashin farin ciki

Zuwa ga: Kuna tsammanin Rafael cewa mutane basu da ikon ganin farin ciki a cikin ƙananan bayanai kuma saboda haka taken littafin?

RS: Ganin kyawawan abubuwa a ƙananan abubuwa sakamakon kyakkyawan lafiyar hankali ne. Lokacin da muke bad ba zamu yaba da abubuwan al'ajabi na yau da rana ba. Amma mabuɗin ga lafiyar hankali ita ce yaƙi da "buƙatun buƙata": gaya wa kanka: "Dole ne in yi komai da kyau ko kuma sosai ko ni tsutsa ne na jini na mafi munin nau'i!". Idan ka daina baiwa kanka bulala ta hankali, zaka fara numfashi cikin sauki da nutsuwa… Anan wurin warkewa ya fara.

Zuwa ga: Dole ne in furta cewa na bi shi a wasan kwaikwayo Ga Duk 2, wanda Marta Càceres da Juanjo Pardo suka gabatar, kuma ina sauraron sa sau ɗaya ina tunani, idan ina da damar yin magana da Rafael Santandreu wata rana (fata an ba ku, na gode Genie!) Zan tambaye shi abin da yake tunani game da ainihin buƙatu 7 da Maslow ya bayyana, tun da kun yi imanin cewa 'yan adam "suna buƙatar" fiye da abubuwan yau da kullun. Me za ku gaya mani game da wannan?

RS: Pyramid na Abraham Maslow, wani shahararren masanin halayyar dan adam a shekarun 50, ya ce dan Adam yana tashi daga "bukatun" yayin da suke rufe abubuwan yau da kullun. Misali, bayan abinci da abin sha, sun fara sha'awar nishaɗi. Bayan haka, aiki mai ban sha'awa. Bayan haka, ingantacciyar soyayya ... Zan nanata cewa ba game da "buƙatu" ba ne game da "sha'awa". "Bukatun" dan adam shine kawai abinci da abin sha. Sauran koyaushe "buri" ne, ma'ana, manufofin da za a iya cika ko a ƙi su. Idan ba haka ba, za mu iya yin farin ciki kamar haka. Don zama mai ƙarfi a cikin ɓacin rai, dole ne ku sarrafa "larura", hauka na juyawa "so" zuwa "cikakken buƙatu." Ina kawai "buƙatar" tushe na dala na Maslow, abinci, amma ba sauran ba. Ba na buƙatar amintaccen aiki, ba na bukatar aboki, ba na bukatar abokai lone Ni kadai, a fagen, tare da abubuwan yau da kullun, zan kasance mai farin ciki mai girma.

Zuwa ga: Na karanta wani wuri (gaskiya bana tuna wanne) cewa da sannu zamu san cikakken bayanin littafin da yake rubutawa a yanzu. Gaskiya ne? Shin Rafael Santandreu zai buga littafi na uku?

RS: Ina cikin Littafi ne wanda zaiyi bayanin yadda ake samun karfin gwiwa amma a wannan lokacin a matakai masu girma. Wato, samun wadataccen hankali na hankali cewa samun aikin da kake so iska ce; cewa kwarkwasa abu ne mai sauki, koda da jarirai. Saboda gaskiya ne cewa hazikancin tunani yana ba ku fa'idar gasa ta dabba saboda duk mutane masu mutuwa ne: suna da mummunan tsoro a cikin kusan dukkanin yankunan rayuwarsu.

Zuwa ga: Ba zan iya taimakawa ba sai dai in nemi ra'ayinku game da littafin ɗabi'a da fim, "Shamsin Inuwar Grey", wanda adadi na masanin halayyar ɗan adam shima ya bayyana. Shin kun karanta littafin ko kun ga fim ɗin? Me kuke tunani? Ta yaya Rafael Santandreu, masanin halayyar ɗan adam, zai bi da Mista Gray?

RS: Ban san komai game da littafin ba, da gaske. Sai kawai cewa mai son ya so sado kuma a ƙarshe abu ya ƙare a matsayin labarin soyayya. Ga mutumin da yake jin daɗin sado, ba zan ce komai ba saboda aiki ne kamar kowane doka. Game da ra'ayin cewa soyayyar soyayyar ita ce babbar fansa, ba wasa ba. Loveaunar soyayya ta wuce gona da iri. Abin da ke da ƙarfi da gaske shine soyayya ga duniya da sauransu, gaba ɗaya.

Zuwa ga: Kuma komawa ga al'amuran da suka shafi adabi, kuma a matsayin tambaya ta ƙarshe, wane littafi ko littattafai ne Rafael Santandreu ya fi jin daɗi da su? Waɗanne littattafai ne ba za a rasa su ba a laburaren ku?

RS: Zan baku shawarar litattafai guda uku wadanda a wurina matsayin adabi ne: "A hanya", "Lysergic acid punch" da "Dispatches". Su lu'ulu'u ne na adabin Ba'amurke na zamani, amma ban da haka, suna bayanin ainihin abubuwan da ke da alaƙa da cikawar mutum, jihohin sane, soyayya, rayuwa da mutuwa. Kari akan haka, ukun suna bin tafarkin ilimin falsafa da na ban sha'awa. Suna kama da ruwan sama tun lokacin da marubutan suka sami tasiri watakila daga The Catcher a cikin Rye ta Salinger.

Bugu da ƙari, na gode Rafael don wannan hira kuma na gode don shawara da gudummawa da yake ba mu kowane mako a cikin Para Todos la 2. Gaisuwa!


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